In a polyamorous relationship
I am in a loving relationship with a woman that thrives being on top. As many do, I have both top and bottom aspects and urges, but My Love is most happy when I stay on the bottom. My Love is focused on her quest for sissies, which I am not, so my quest is to find that certain female playmate. I am a switch and enjoy both roles. I am that "mature" male looking for that mature female of any age who appreciates experience and enjoys the company of someone of age and a certain wisdom.
BDSM, ah, such a broad term with big grey areas. As a bottom my role had been focused on sexual denial, caging, humiliating forced sex with other men, CBT and a host of blah blah you can easily imagine. Always happy to share at length. When I'm on top, I feel that desire only with women. Socially I have the highest respect for women and then there is this side of things that would seem to go against those higher ideals. That's why we don't tell Auntie or Grandma about our "special" interests. More challenging, you ARE Auntie or Grandma or Uncle and keep your leather where the kids can't find it. So if you are that special woman that groks the harmony of tenderness and care combined with punishment and humiliation I would love to chat with you.
No, scat, sharps, blood or real violence.
Nothing and everything. Let's talk and make a new thing happen.