I am a male , DOM, seeking a masochistic woman who enjoys both pain and pleasure. But not extreme pain, and no permanent marks. I am kind, caring, generous, nurturing and looking to develop trust and intimacy in the relationship. This is as important as developing our kinks. I am also stern and strict. I love rules and protocols. Some are sexy fun. Some are for your own health and well being. Follow the rules and it can lead to good things. (Cuddles, being called “good girl” and praise) Not follow the rules and it will also lead to good things too. (Impact play). I would describe myself as protective, but not overbearing and controlling. For example, if we are out together on a lunch date and i notice men staring at you , I’m going to gently pull you close to me and playfully bite your ear while hugging you from behind. I also enjoy combining vanilla with bdsm. Taking you out to dinner and making you dress up in a dress, high heels, but no panties. And inserting a remote vibrator into your pussy, and turning it on and watching you orgasm silently while others around you are eating their dinner. Now thats hot.