sub male

Grass Valley, California, United States
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Young artist/writer with years of prelim' practice :)
Hiya! I'm looking for a calm, but passionate relationship with a woman (or man) younger than 35 who's fine to take it slow and build a decent foundation for a lifestyle-oriented arrangement (online alright to start, if need be). I'm 5'7'' and 120lb - compact and portable. I've been interested in/practicing self-bondage for about 6 years, though unfortunately I don't have much experience in a BDSM style relationship (though, quite eager to learn the ropes, pun intended). I prefer the relationship to be based on mutual respect, and I'm not looking for any kind of financial slavery/control situation - that's not really in-line with my career ambitions and it seems like shaky grounds anyhow. I work from home as a freelance artist and writer for video games, do ink drawings, and enjoy hockey, cats, and Chinese food. If you're a dom and looking for someone who will respect you and your work as much as your presence, demeanor, and sexual vitality, please shoot me a message or read my profile to get to know me a little better (and then maybe a message). Thanks for reading this far :)
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About me
Hi! I'm a 19 year old artist from NorCal. I'm 5'7'' and 120lb. Pretty damn easy to keep under your heel. I do pixel art for work/living/profession (some of which I've included in my profile images), rent out my own room, and am eating moderately healthy for not having an oven/stovetop, or at least, I think so. I like Chinese food, hockey, movies, most types of art (abstract just isn't to my tastes), computer hardware/parts, Converse sneakers (high tops), cats, big dogs, leather jackets, writing, cosmic horror, cyberpunk, synthwave music, select individual songs from pretty much every genre (synthwave primary), moody video games, the colors white/silver/blue/pink, soft blankets, lasagna, Calvin and Hobbes, slouching, posture collars, and being tied up while sleeping next to someone. I work from home which makes things lonely. Don't have a car, but why would I get one if I work from home? I love small living spaces and have little need for a big house, but I do have aspirations of being a Creative Director at my own video game studio. Sounds outlandish, I know, but I'm only referring to a nice small studio with <20 employees. I think that's doable. Here's a gif of me, very SFW ;
BDSM and me
I've had a difficult time figuring out what I need from a relationship, but it's more or less clear that I have an express desire for someone who I can trust to make their own decisions, and have developed and expressed desires/wants. In previous flings (I've never been in a legitimate relationship), I was just looking to check boxes for what I wanted, and this resulted in some confusing scenarios. I found great people, but I failed to look at them as a person beyond fulfilling my criteria, and that ended up making their issues (legitimate as they were) more obtrusive. I'm much more wary now and am very disappointed to admit that no, it's not possible to fuel a strong, healthy relationship on just sexual interests alone. Good chemistry first, rope bondage second. As for BDSM purely, I just want to find someone who is wanting/happy to take the dominant role while being trustworthy with that power at the same time. It's exhausting, at least for me, to be the guiding element in a relationship. I don't want to worry about whether my partner is making an effective decision that's fueled by true desire/passion rather than outside influences (like, for instance, choice of college major). It annoys me when someone doesn't know what they want. These are really difficult things to know/be sure of, and I'm not infallible myself, but I'm at least confident that I'm taking options and opportunities that I think will be the most fulfilling for me. Sorry for the ramble. This ties into (pun intended) my love for being tied up/restrained/otherwise "de-emphasized", because I feel most at ease when I'm objectively unable to make decisions, or lead conversations, or worry about whether I'm taking the pace of sex correctly. When I'm able to freely think/act my mind is all over the place, my ability to focus is shit, and I just end up doing very little, which usually comes as a disappointment. Tell me what to do, make me trust that it's what YOU really want, and I'm happy as can be.
I fuckin' hate feet and non-head hair. The normal limits on top of those.
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Tuesday, February 11, 2020
Member since
Monday, September 16, 2019
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