sub male

California, United States
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Young artist/writer with years of prelim' practice :)
Hiya! I'm looking for a calm, but passionate relationship with a woman (or man) younger than 35 who's fine to take it slow and build a decent foundation for a lifestyle-oriented arrangement (online alright to start, if need be). I'm 5'7'' and 120lb - compact and portable. I've been interested in/practicing self-bondage for about 6 years, though unfortunately I don't have much experience in a BDSM style relationship (though, quite eager to learn the ropes, pun intended). I prefer the relationship to be based on mutual respect, and I'm not looking for any kind of financial slavery/control situation - that's not really in-line with my career ambitions and it seems like shaky grounds anyhow. I work from home as a freelance artist and writer for video games, do ink drawings, and enjoy hockey, cats, and Chinese food. If you're a dom and looking for someone who will respect you and your work as much as your presence, demeanor, and sexual vitality, please shoot me a message or read my profile to get to know me a little better (and then maybe a message). Thanks for reading this far :)
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About me
Hiya! 5'7'' and 125lb. I do video game art for work. I'm a quiet guy who really likes the forest at 6am, cold weather, hockey, Chinese food, cats, RPG's, white/black/silver decor, tight clothing, hikes, brush-tip ink pens, Blade Runner, and being caressed by a special someone whilst making dinner for them over a warm stovetop. I'm monogamous. Strictly fetish-wise, - bondage is top. Rope, tape, harness, armbinder, bitchsuit, whatever, very down for all of it. I'm extremely aroused by feeling like the weaker of the two of us, so I generally tend to go for people taller or stronger than me. If you're both, you're badass, I love you. That continues into physical domination - I like being forced to do things, wrestled into submission, grappled, squeezed. Shows of wholly controlled force make me melt. Smothering is great. Very big fan of groping, though only slightly in public - I'm very easily embarrassed around strangers especially, so it's definitely something that can be used effectively, but if it goes too far I'll just distance myself. Not an exhibitionist but I'm willing to try duo camwork if you want it. Aside from that, gags of all types, sensory deprivation, both great. I'm into some of the more niche stuff, but they aren't requirements - petplay, roleplay, suspension, etc.. I have a hard time with pain, but it's not for lack of interest - my pain threshold is very low. If you enjoy seeing people in pain, I'm down for that with you - if you enjoy GIVING large amounts of pain, I might not be your guy. You can bring me to my knees with a decent pinch, so the pain is there - the resistance is not. Here's a gif of me, very SFW ;
BDSM and me
I've had a difficult time figuring out what I need from a relationship, but it's more or less clear that I have an express desire for someone who I can trust to make their own decisions, and have developed and expressed desires/wants. In previous flings (I've never been in a legitimate relationship), I was just looking to check boxes for what I wanted, and this resulted in some confusing scenarios. I found great people, but I failed to look at them as a person beyond fulfilling my criteria, and that ended up making their issues (legitimate as they were) more obtrusive. I'm much more wary now and am very disappointed to admit that no, it's not possible to fuel a strong, healthy relationship on just sexual interests alone. Good chemistry first, rope bondage second. As for BDSM purely, I just want to find someone who is wanting/happy to take the dominant role while being trustworthy with that power at the same time. This ties into (pun intended) my love for being tied up/restrained/otherwise "de-emphasized", because I feel most at ease when I'm objectively unable to make decisions, or lead conversations, or worry about whether I'm taking the pace of sex correctly. When I'm able to freely think/act my mind is all over the place, my ability to focus is shit, and I just end up doing very little, which usually comes as a disappointment. Tell me what to do, make me trust that it's what YOU really want, and I'm happy as can be. And, you know, I really, really, really like getting tied up and just.. held. Makes me feel warm and fuzzy.
My limits are extreme pain, blood, ageplay, feet, scat [ugh just feels gross to type] and anal in the licking sense. Just doesn't seem hygienic to me.
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Saturday, March 13, 2021
Member since
Monday, September 16, 2019
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