The Kraken

dom male

The Dark Arts - I Love Them So
I have a great love for our community and a true passion for our Dark Arts when they are wielded with Love & Respect. And I am well regarded in our community for the workshops and socials I've taught over the years, the mentorship I enjoy sharing with new Doms & Subs, and the extremely proper and non-sexual sceneing and training I enjoy sharing with that rare and special submissive / friend. 

While I do very much enjoy having non-relationship submissives in my life, I am also a huge romantic when that very special and rare person appears in my life. I think I could even date another Domme and share a submissive together :)). I rarely do pickup play of any kind or really anything "casual" and keep clear boundaries and ethics around romantic vs friendship/community happenings. I believe that I am one of the few men out there with the fortitude and skills to manage deep levels of consent properly, and not do things like hit on his mentees or rope partners - these values and creating a safe space, even in edgy dynamics, are -extremely- important to me.  

Although many here may dream of a true Ds Romance & Dynamic; I have discovered that, for so many of us, it is really just a dream or fantasy or something we prefer to dip our toes into once a week. The real deal might be terrifying to our subconscious mind when it became 24/7 or involved True Love.

So, Know Thyself! There is nothing wrong with either flavour mentioned above; and I have had some amazing and deep friendships that held a Dynamic, for instance a curated-by-me dress up for events or doing rope together situation, which were deep-safe-exploratory-beautiful. Frankly, the other often takes time for people to fit into their lives - and we all want to get started somewhere!

To this, end I thought it might be useful to touch on that aspect of Dynamics I love to run - before jumping into the whole "Morticia and Gomez for 1000 lifetimes forever, until the End of the Universe" trip that I also adore.

My Style
I specialize in the Ds aspect of our fine Arts and a kind of sexy objectification that brings the lady up rather than pushes her down. I am also quite skilled with impact, especially canes and spanking (30 years of Iron Palm training), love a more intimate style of shibari, and very much love seeing my sub's connection and response to these efforts. I love shopping for and dressing a beautiful woman and am quite masterful at it.

And thus comes my great love of Doll & kitten play, pretty lingerie for her, photography, and all things related. I find that many women have a fantasy about themselves, may need a skilled hand at unlocking that side, yet also find doing so incredibly empowering -and- a huge turn on. I love doing that and providing any proper training that the lady may also desire. I am also quite caring and damn good at that part.

Submission & Service
I am sufficiently active in the community that I could sure use the help and benefit from the presence of a wise, feminine, and powerful submissive person or 2 in my life. Not only would this person assist me with various community events / get togethers and around the studio/shop (I am starting to make my high-end canes, collars, harnesses, furniture available on a professional basis), but would also attend events with me, serve as a model/demo-bottom on occasion, and potentially even co-author some works with me.

Your experience level does not matter, but your inner qualities of being an excellent person -do- matter.

This should feel like old-fashioned Dom/sub or Master/pet situation, like Ds best friends, or like working-partners - or some combination of those factors. This would be separate from the romantic part of my life. And I can truly say that I am one of the very few well-trained Dominants out there with a heightened enough sense of BDSM ethics, integrity, and experience that he can actually deliver on the "Here for way more depth than just the sex or money" themes.

This is typically a very deep, bonding connection. And while we can allow it to be fun and sensual (dress up, rope etc) if we wish - it will always feel safe and distinctly non-flirty / non-sexual. As far as what you, the submissive, would receive in return - some topics and themes may include:

- Receiving rope and impact to your heart's content
- Kitten or Doll play, being dressed up, collar and leash, and so on
- Being trained in the traditional, high protocol manner and ritual-like habits
- Being photographed professionally, if desired
- Having a Master Craftsman create bdsm leatherwear & cosplay elements for you - to wear and model
- Being take to and shown off at events
- Being able to travel Internationally
- Having a focus for your gifts of Service to people and community, being able to truly make a difference
- Ethics and personal development training, having an experienced guide, coach, and caring mentor
- Having a family-like, tight circle of bdsm friends


More on Roger
I have a 30-year background with traditional Tantra, Taoist and Fighting arts--and this gives a Jedi-like influence on everything I do. Relationships, sexuality, deep friends and connection are sacred to me, and I have a powerful yet highly selective appetite for a special family-like circle of friends in my life. I've studied under some of Austin's most experience Doms, and I hold our community to a high bar when it comes to ethics & depth of connection.

AFTER 3 Years of running the wonderfully attended Tantrik Meditations Class for this community; I am launching a new, Monthly Community Discussion and PotLuck hangout focused on Ds Dynamics & Kitten/Doll play. Anyone is welcome to attend. It is shaping up to be a wonderful little community of people!
                                                                                                                                              

ATX | ANTWERP | CAMBRIDGE | SURREY

I'M MID-STREAM ON A MOVE TO BELGIUM & ENGLAND 1/4 OF THE YEAR! YES, REALLY! BUT STILL IN AUSTIN 3/4s for now.
I also travel the US (East & West Coast and Quebec) quite regularly and love staying an extra week or 2 to see friends

I'm an intense, loving, romantic, and extremely sensual Dominant Gentleman who enjoys deep connection with his special girl via power exchange, training, mental / emotional control, dress up & show off, toys, and -especially- the use of my voice. I am fortunate to have developed a very deep emotional intelligence and wisdom around communication, consent, emotional safety--and slowly drawing a woman deep into her most submissive places and fantasies around herself and bringing that best and (often hidden) sexiest part to the surface in our quiet places together. 

The vampire with his princess, if you will. I see my submissive as an equal partner, the yin to my yang, and I very much enjoy empowering the depths of her femininity and seductiveness towards me--while I take the lead in a more active and masculine sense. I very much enjoy seeing my partner's mind and emotions find their safest place in my embrace--and opening herself to my seductive control on the way. I want her to find -herself- by yielding to me.

I've also been well-mentored in a very Ds-oriented style of restraint and shibari. And I do love impact and hypnosis as additional fun tools. I do have a very pro photography rig and am starting to enjoy doing pro-shoots for friends as well.

I see myself as mainly a seductive Dominant; but can definitely, via my long martial arts background, bring out a lot of intensity for a girl who dreams of spankings and restraint. Her arousal is what I enjoy. There are many who would describe my level of emotional Dominance as a kind of sexy, objectifying sadism, but I think of it in a more empowering way than sadistic in the purest use of the word.

Regards to you all-

Roger

Roger's Work

Some of you have asked what I do for a living: I'm a veteran Game Dev & Creative Director. Ex-Bioware, in case you have played some of our games. As a 30-year veteran Dev and MIT-trained futurist on technologies, I am a leader of teams and influencers in my space. These days, I work independently as an consultant, advisor, studio leader, and business expert in the new intersection of AAA gaming & other epically cool technologies. No crypto here, no NFTs either; BUT, I am one of the world's foremost experts in the area of "pure blockchain" as well as other related tech, such as Augmented Reality, Machine Vision, and AI. My clients are major game studios or $15B funds who seek to know more about our space. I am highly focused on best practices, happy people, and incredible team culture.

I am also a professional craftsman-mainly handmade furniture & blacksmithing. Yes, I do enjoy making handmade things / toys / collars for my girl or dear scene friends who need dungeon furniture.

You can also expect to see me in Europe and the UK regularly during this next year. Exciting times; love to hear what life and the BDSM community is like in all of these places. Excited to make some new friends and see the world; don't hesitate to reach out...I love making new friends.

THE OLD, BUT MOSTLY STILL ACCURATE
I am a very high integrity gentleman, unselfish yet passionate. Please be the same, except very very feminine. If you are sweet to me, I will always take care of you and surround you with a massive plush oak tree of masculine energy. I lean towards deeper, longer term connections; but can be open to play and protocol practice together, monogamous and (extremely loyal) poly in special cases. My style leans towards emotional, mental, romantic, and sensual themes-although some impact and spankings are fun, ditto for rope. I am a long time martial artist, very physically in tune. I have a huge and caring Protector in me, best ever, for the right girl. No one does that better. I'm a medium experienced Dom: deep experience in emotional D|s, spanking, toys, training, orgasm control etc. but medium when it comes  impact and rope. Under Mentorship of and training by one of Austin's most experienced Doms....I am serious about my craft. I'm a pro video game developer, yoga teacher, and furniture maker in my vanilla life. Quirky, yet Jedi-like. A Gomez seeking his Morticia.

I'm not a physical sadist; but I do enjoy impact play when it gets my girl turned on. While I do have a huge Doll/Pet owner side for my girl, I'm not really into age play or animal play. All of my fantasies will revolve around you, in your present form-and drawing your best and most feminine qualities to the surface.

I live a very balanced and healthy, but not uptight lifestyle. Vegetarian and nearly vegan.

You should be super caring, super feminine, take amazing care of yourself, emotionally and sexually available, playful, quirky, and submissive. I'd love to have a romantic and passionate connection with you, whether for play or for love, both are good! 

Typically, I would seek a woman 26-46 (with exceptions of course), slender/athletic/shapely, strong & open heart, emotionally intelligent, dark hair can be nice though I will not turn away a pretty blonde :). Sometimes a quirky or exotic style will captivate me. 

Just know that your feminine qualities will be savored and appreciated so much!