The Kraken​{ATX}

dom male

I'm BiLocational
I like to spend months at a time in England, Belgium, and am investigating Prague, Spain, Portugal - will probably get a home there in time. I love it there and also find that my chemistry with an English or European girl is an optimal fit. I would be a lucky man to fall in love with such a woman, or even to have the same as a best-friend submissive! Of course, there are those rare women here in the States with those same qualities - and, of course, it is all about her not her bloodline (unless her name is Morticia and/or she has one vampire grandparent or similar traits :)

Dominance is not a Path to Quick Casual Sex - for Me, at Least. Yes, this Leads to -Better Everything-

I was raised up in the BDSM Community by traditional mentors - and they only took me in and taught me "the good stuff" because I already had the ethics & integrity, communication & consent skills, and personal center derived from 25 years+ under traditional Tantrik & Taoist teachers. Some of this was brutal and made me what I am now.

I am Old School, and I am extremely Deep, Romantic, and Loyal. I will never take advantage of someone, no matter how attractive - I am not here to "get something" I need. I am fairly complete already. And, yes, odd I know for a Man - but I have zero interest in having sex with someone that I have no emotional bond with. The flip side of that is that when I do have that bond - my intensity, loving dominance, romantic and sexy side have few limits.

Weirdly, this is a strange time for people like me. Professional sex-workers, whom I respect for their skill set and generally find to be fascinating people, are not doing anything remotely like true Ds Dynamics and who for the most part have no conception of consent or even emotionally safe-play - yet the newish bdsm community has come to see these folks as the actual authorities on our arts. And treat them as prized teachers and mentors. Commitment, care, loyalty - most see those as weaknesses to exploit for money or sex. Many use the words Dom and sub and see it all as a fantasy, which seems to imply more of a dress-up roleplay more than anything - and yet are only interested in quick kinky play with strangers who are also disposable. Traditional terminology that might be sacred to some, "Full-time Dynamic," "Poly Relationship," "Dom and sub," even BDSM itself are so misunderstood that most people pretty rigidly, yet incorrectly, firmly "Know" the meaning to be one of abuse or usery so strongly that they cannot be convinced otherwise.

And then there are a few of us - who are like me (hopefully loyal and deep and passionate). The above is very much how it is here in Austin - so much so that I have been exploring a life overseas in hopes that people are a bit more like me there. I have seen how the scene in Denmark or Belgium is much more a couples & dynamic-driven community, and I love that!

In fact, if you are reading this - I will be immensely grateful if you would write and tell me about the scene in your city. That would be powerfully helpful to me on my quest :) Thanks - and I promise I won't be hitting on you just because your wrote me :)) (yet, another misconception about Doms)

BDSM makes Real Life a Living Dream - Not an Unreachable Fantasy

It is worth stating: I am a real-life kindof Dom, not interested in a purely online dynamic or some kind of telephone role-play. I do those things rather well and people do seem to find my voice addictive - but only in addition to a real life dynamic, not instead of. I protect and mentor our community fiercely. The sword has another side: Usery, Lies, Manipulation, Selfishness, Getting that "one thing you need right now" - these have no place in my circle, and such will last about a day before they are out permanently.

As a Dom, I have truly come to understand how all of you pretty ladies are often made to feel: noticed, desired, but Not Actually Seen for Myself just some kind of magical hot evening I am supposed to provide. It is true: I lack cleavage entirely :)) (thank god!), I don't have pretty eyes / eyeliner, and I'm confident I look terrible in a corset :))....But, my God, how many times do I have to interact with a lovely woman who comes off as super sincere, but who I very quickly find out is just using me as their "Dom Porn." Maybe they have a fantasy, maybe they want scene access - getting in to special events or getting to meet people because they know me, maybe many things.

The bottom line is that a) this kind of thing really hurts, and I have zero desire to add to that mess. And b) I'm here for depth and life-long connections. People who see my soul - and who want to be seen for their true self. It matters not to me if this is a new best friend - or a galaxy spanning, sexiest romance ever. It is the bond between 2 special people that makes it special.  

Seduction

Receive my kiss, hands, or play style. Be seen for your Truest, Deepest, Realest Self - and receive my every protection, nurture, embrace - both emotional and physical. Be bound & spanked. Submit to me on a deeper level...

This is a time in my life where I've done the work to self-heal, be complete, happy, and able to share/communicate deeply. I am ready for a long-term relationship & a long-term, loyal and amazing dynamic & life-partner. Though skilled with long-distance dynamics (handy skillset for when we might be apart), my experience and relationships are Real Life bdsm connections - not fantasy, not online. I often travel to see friends and family and will definitely so that for the right woman - or bring her to me. Time and a future together is most important.

This is also the time in my life where I am making all my fantasies, and yours, into the fabric of daily life. A Jedi-like Gomez seeking his Morticia. I'd love to have a romantic and passionate connection with a very special woman for play, for love, for both!

If you’ve dreamed of sensual dominance, being a prized pet…being trained and moulded into the object of a caring man’s imaginations. And experiencing the daily flow of connection and embrace of his loving control and emotional tree-trunk, then I am your guy.

The Dark Arts - I Love Them So
I have a great love for our community and a true passion for our Dark Arts when they are wielded with Love & Respect. And I am well regarded in our community for the workshops and socials I've taught over the years, the mentorship I enjoy sharing with new Doms & Subs, and the extremely proper and non-sexual sceneing and training I enjoy sharing with that rare and special submissive / friend. 

While I do very much enjoy having non-relationship submissives in my life, I am also a huge romantic when that very special and rare person appears in my life. I think I could even date another Domme and share a submissive together :)). I rarely do pickup play of any kind or really anything "casual" and keep clear boundaries and ethics around romantic vs friendship/community happenings. I believe that I am one of the few men out there with the fortitude and skills to manage deep levels of consent properly, and not do things like hit on his mentees or rope partners - these values and creating a safe space, even in edgy dynamics, are -extremely- important to me.  

Although many here may dream of a true Ds Romance & Dynamic; I have discovered that, for some of us, it is really just a dream or fantasy or something we prefer to dip our toes into once a week. The real deal might be terrifying to our subconscious mind when it became 24/7 or involved True Love. I am here for the real deal - and making it happen together, and in real life!

So, Know Thyself! There is nothing wrong with either flavour mentioned above; and I have had some amazing and deep friendships that held a Dynamic, for instance a curated-by-me dress up for events or doing rope together situation, which were deep-safe-exploratory-beautiful. Frankly, the other often takes time for people to fit into their lives - and we all want to get started somewhere!

To this, end I thought it might be useful to touch on that aspect of Dynamics I love to run - before jumping into the whole "Morticia and Gomez for 1000 lifetimes forever, until the End of the Universe" trip that I also adore.

My Style
I specialize in the Ds aspect of our fine Arts and a kind of sexy objectification that brings the lady up rather than pushes her down. I am also quite skilled with impact, especially canes and spanking (30 years of Iron Palm training), love a more intimate style of shibari, and very much love seeing my sub's connection and response to these efforts. I love shopping for and dressing a beautiful woman and am quite masterful at it.

And thus comes my great love of Doll & kitten play, pretty lingerie for her, photography, and all things related. I find that many women have a fantasy about themselves, may need a skilled hand at unlocking that side, yet also find doing so incredibly empowering -and- a huge turn on. I love doing that and providing any proper training that the lady may also desire. I am also quite caring and damn good at that part.

Submission & Service
I am sufficiently active in the community that I could sure use the help and benefit from the presence of a wise, feminine, and powerful submissive person or 2 in my life. Not only would this person assist me with various community events / get togethers and around the studio/shop (I am starting to make my high-end canes, collars, harnesses, furniture available on a professional basis), but would also attend events with me, serve as a model/demo-bottom on occasion, and potentially even co-author some works with me.

Your experience level does not matter, but your inner qualities of being an excellent person -do- matter.

This should feel like old-fashioned Dom/sub or Master/pet situation, like Ds best friends, or like working-partners - or some combination of those factors. This would be separate from the romantic part of my life. And I can truly say that I am one of the very few well-trained Dominants out there with a heightened enough sense of BDSM ethics, integrity, and experience that he can actually deliver on the "Here for way more depth than just the sex or money" themes.

This is typically a very deep, bonding connection. And while we can allow it to be fun and sensual (dress up, rope etc) if we wish - it will always feel safe and distinctly non-flirty / non-sexual. As far as what you, the submissive, would receive in return - some topics and themes may include:

- Receiving rope and impact to your heart's content
- Kitten or Doll play, being dressed up, collar and leash, and so on
- Being trained in the traditional, high protocol manner and ritual-like habits
- Being photographed professionally, if desired
- Having a Master Craftsman create bdsm leatherwear & cosplay elements for you - to wear and model
- Being take to and shown off at events
- Being able to travel Internationally
- Having a focus for your gifts of Service to people and community, being able to truly make a difference
- Ethics and personal development training, having an experienced guide, coach, and caring mentor
- Having a family-like, tight circle of bdsm friends


More on Roger
I have a 30-year background with traditional Tantra, Taoist and Fighting arts--and this gives a Jedi-like influence on everything I do. Relationships, sexuality, deep friends and connection are sacred to me, and I have a powerful yet highly selective appetite for a special family-like circle of friends in my life. I've studied under some of Austin's most experience Doms, and I hold our community to a high bar when it comes to ethics & depth of connection.

AFTER 3 Years of running the wonderfully attended Tantrik Meditations Class for this community; I am launching a new, Monthly Community Discussion and PotLuck hangout focused on Ds Dynamics & Kitten/Doll play. Anyone is welcome to attend. It is shaping up to be a wonderful little community of people!
                                                                                                                                              

ATX | ANTWERP | CAMBRIDGE | SURREY

I'M MID-STREAM ON A MOVE TO BELGIUM & ENGLAND 1/4 OF THE YEAR! YES, REALLY! BUT STILL IN AUSTIN 3/4s for now.
I also travel the US (East & West Coast and Quebec) quite regularly and love staying an extra week or 2 to see friends

I'm an intense, loving, romantic, and extremely sensual Dominant Gentleman who enjoys deep connection with his special girl via power exchange, training, mental / emotional control, dress up & show off, toys, and -especially- the use of my voice. I am fortunate to have developed a very deep emotional intelligence and wisdom around communication, consent, emotional safety--and slowly drawing a woman deep into her most submissive places and fantasies around herself and bringing that best and (often hidden) sexiest part to the surface in our quiet places together. 

The vampire with his princess, if you will. I see my submissive as an equal partner, the yin to my yang, and I very much enjoy empowering the depths of her femininity and seductiveness towards me--while I take the lead in a more active and masculine sense. I very much enjoy seeing my partner's mind and emotions find their safest place in my embrace--and opening herself to my seductive control on the way. I want her to find -herself- by yielding to me.

I've also been well-mentored in a very Ds-oriented style of restraint and shibari. And I do love impact and hypnosis as additional fun tools. I do have a very pro photography rig and am starting to enjoy doing pro-shoots for friends as well.

I see myself as mainly a seductive Dominant; but can definitely, via my long martial arts background, bring out a lot of intensity for a girl who dreams of spankings and restraint. Her arousal is what I enjoy. There are many who would describe my level of emotional Dominance as a kind of sexy, objectifying sadism, but I think of it in a more empowering way than sadistic in the purest use of the word.

Regards to you all-

Roger

Roger's Work

Some of you have asked what I do for a living: I'm a veteran Game Dev & Creative Director. Ex-Bioware, in case you have played some of our games. As a 30-year veteran Dev and MIT-trained futurist on technologies, I am a leader of teams and influencers in my space. These days, I work independently as an consultant, advisor, studio leader, and business expert in the new intersection of AAA gaming & other epically cool technologies. No crypto here, no NFTs either; BUT, I am one of the world's foremost experts in the area of "pure blockchain" as well as other related tech, such as Augmented Reality, Machine Vision, and AI. My clients are major game studios or $15B funds who seek to know more about our space. I am highly focused on best practices, happy people, and incredible team culture.

I am also a professional craftsman-mainly handmade furniture & blacksmithing. Yes, I do enjoy making handmade things / toys / collars for my girl or dear scene friends who need dungeon furniture.

You can also expect to see me in Europe and the UK regularly during this next year. Exciting times; love to hear what life and the BDSM community is like in all of these places. Excited to make some new friends and see the world; don't hesitate to reach out...I love making new friends.

THE OLD, BUT MOSTLY STILL ACCURATE
I am a very high integrity gentleman, unselfish yet passionate. Please be the same, except very very feminine. If you are sweet to me, I will always take care of you and surround you with a massive plush oak tree of masculine energy. I lean towards deeper, longer term connections; but can be open to play and protocol practice together, monogamous and (extremely loyal) poly in special cases. My style leans towards emotional, mental, romantic, and sensual themes-although some impact and spankings are fun, ditto for rope. I am a long time martial artist, very physically in tune. I have a huge and caring Protector in me, best ever, for the right girl. No one does that better. I'm a medium experienced Dom: deep experience in emotional D|s, spanking, toys, training, orgasm control etc. but medium when it comes  impact and rope. Under Mentorship of and training by one of Austin's most experienced Doms....I am serious about my craft. I'm a pro video game developer, yoga teacher, and furniture maker in my vanilla life. Quirky, yet Jedi-like. A Gomez seeking his Morticia.

I'm not a physical sadist; but I do enjoy impact play when it gets my girl turned on. While I do have a huge Doll/Pet owner side for my girl, I'm not really into age play or animal play. All of my fantasies will revolve around you, in your present form-and drawing your best and most feminine qualities to the surface.

I live a very balanced and healthy, but not uptight lifestyle. Vegetarian and nearly vegan.

You should be super caring, super feminine, take amazing care of yourself, emotionally and sexually available, playful, quirky, and submissive. I'd love to have a romantic and passionate connection with you, whether for play or for love, both are good! 

Typically, I would seek a woman 26-46 (with exceptions of course), slender/athletic/shapely, strong & open heart, emotionally intelligent, dark hair can be nice though I will not turn away a pretty blonde :). Sometimes a quirky or exotic style will captivate me. 

Just know that your feminine qualities will be savored and appreciated so much!