There are some times in life in which you just cant help but laugh at either yourself or the circumstances in which you happen to find yourself in. Last night happened to be one of those events.
Hanging out with friends and packmates, other pups came around and introduced a new member of the community who happened to be curious about the puppy community and wanted to know more about it. Of course he began doing the usual questions, "What do you find so interesting about pup play, why do you do pup play, what is it that draws you to it," and so forth. Over the course of this conversation, the phrasing "vanillas don't really understand" came about. The amusing thing of course was that when this is brought about or said, the person usually always says "what is a vanilla?" Which of course he did. His boyfriend promptly told him "honey, in this instance, you are," of course this set everyone laughing. However he surprised us all by promptly informing us "I am more mocha than vanilla." Which of course he was referring to his skin tone. What I find amusing, is that how when you use the term "vanilla" most look at it almost like it is derogatory than it is descriptive. It is of course in no way meant to mean anything mean or bad, simply it means one is unused to the fetish world or what kinks mean and is new to it all.
It is a good thing they are willing to explore and be open about their curiosities. So when you are approached by a vanilla who is curious about your kink, or the kink world in general, be open, friendly and welcoming. Indulge their interests but don't scare them away by showing them things or explaining things to them that might make them want to run. Remember, we were all new to this at one point or another as well. Put yourself in their shoes and think back to how you would want to feel if you had yourself as a mentor and guide into this crazy wonderful world.
Teach them the fun happy stuff that makes them want to learn more and come back to visit again, to learn more and seduce them over to the dark side. While also teaching them how to be safe about it so they are not hurt or put in harms way and able to still have fun. Show them the dark side and how much fun it can be to release your stress, anxiety and all cares of the world that we all live and enjoy so they want to keep coming back. So they want to return and open their eyes even more and really see what awaits them on the other side of the closed doors.
--Chester--
