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5 years ago. July 8, 2018 at 6:17 PM

So I have noticed recently that in today's society there is a problem running that everyone is deeply affected by and it causes massive stress for everyone. This problem is that instead of PROgressing we are REgressing in terms or time and expectations.

 

This basically means that the pressure is on for all people that come of age 18 and older, to immediately partner up, get married, have kids, and do the 1950's thing. AKA 2 1/2 kids, white picket fence, a dog, two story suburban house hold that's perfect with a house wife who raises kids and bakes at home while her husband goes to work all day and earns money for the house hold.

 

This is total bullshit. It creates way too much pressure on people into making poor choices they later regret because they get hurt rushing into relationships that weren't right to begin with in the first place. When they really should have been finding out more about themselves, learning to be comfortable with who they are as people both inside and out and learning to accept who they are. Then after they figure that out figuring out what is right for them in terms of a relationship before the go and find that perfect partner with whom they want to spend their life with.

 

It has created a lot of stress on a lot of people that has led to severe depression and suicidal situations for many of my friends that has obviously not been good. So please, if you find yourself in a situation where you think you HAVE to be in a relationship to be happy, pause, look at yourself. Do you really, deep down know yourself? Do you really know who you are inside? Know every inch and cranny of yourself comfortably? Can you honestly say that you know every tiny little thing about yourself inside and out? Are you sure you are ready to share every inch of yourself with another human being? If any answer here is no then you need to step back, breathe, take time to yourself, do some deep self awareness soul searching and learn more about yourself before you embark on your quest to please anyone else.

 

The goal here is to make yourself happy which you cannot do if you try to please society. Screw society it is filled with assholes who basically are filled with the "all about me" mentality which is bad. Be open minded. helpful and positive to everyone. Love everyone and be encouraging and don't shame anyone for things they like. Be helpful and if they like something you don't, that's okay nothing wrong with it, politely tell them it is not your thing and change the topic.

 

Sorry about my rant I will end it here and let things go. I apologize in advance if I have offended anyone however I felt this was very important and needed to be said. Thank you for taking the time to read my post feel free to ignore me, block me or whatever you feel is right I totally understand.

Hisproclivity​(sub female) - I love hearing others view points. Thanks for sharing Pup. I am on the opposite side of things. All my friends went to get their masters and doctorates.. So they are 32 and single.. I see them rushing into relationships because of the "normal" ideals. I am constantly going to weddings that I feel won't last. So I feel ya!
5 years ago
Pup Kit Kato{BratJack} - Thank you for sharing your view point and experiences as this is what my post was about. Not about stats and numbers but real life. I can see that side of things happening as well. I hope that the relationships and marriages last for them and really work out in the end unfortunately, without knowing oneself first you cannot know another.
5 years ago

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