When things dont go right or turn out the way we want it hurts. We've all felt that pain. It's easy to feel unwanted and lonely. To analyze yourself and see where things went wrong. To grieve the loss of what could have been. Majority of the time it is because something or someone better suited to us is out there. That we fabricated who this person could be or a certain level we expect when really that is not them. We feel disapointed. All of this is normal and a process we all must go through.
Once this is over however we want to move forward. But maybe we are not ready to. Maybe we are still emotionally unavailable. Physically willing and heartfelt wanting but not emotionally ready to commit to someone else.
Sometimes we force this process and in turn end up hurting more people. Never truely alone for long, searching for our next person. If this sounds like you I want you to stop for a moment. Take a breathe. Understand that just like your past failed relationship where they could not satisfy your wants or needs, that again you are forcing a relationship/dynamic. To fill a deep longing inside. Its easy to use others to make ourselves feel better and wanted.
Sometimes its hard to know when you are ready to move on. Normally when someone catches you off guard and you have had the time by yourself to process, that means you might be open and ready. Do not be affraid to take the time to make sure that you can give all of yourself to the next person you choose to. This is not just aimed at submissives but at dominants as well. Im currently sitting on the otherside. I was pursued and captivated. Until it was time to meet and he realised he still had feelings for his ex vanilla gf. I understand. I get it. But dont expect me to chase you. The o ly thing thar has me still here is his honesty.
Just like anybody else I expect all of you. You will receive all of me. So I expect you to be consumed just as much as I am. That we are both able to build a dynamic together on equal levels. Yes equal. I am the submissive and i openly hold you above me, if you let me all the way in so that i can help you reach that high place. But emotionally and mentally contributing equal amounts.
So ask yourself if you are everything you think.
Physically ready. To have someone elses hands and lips (plus more) on you .... tick
Mentally ready to let this person in and show them my faults as well as my awesomeness.... tick
Emotionally available to give them every last breath of me...... tick
Then yes you're ready.
As always communicate and explain where you're at. If you are speaking to someone worth while they will understand. I dont expect my dominant to be perfect. I expect him to be human. But if you approach me you must be ready.
This stuff is real and people become invested. Take your time to make sure you are ok before you move on. Dont use others for your happiness, because when they are gone you will still be left with only yourself.
