Silent Observations

Pet Masters Pet​(sub female){Collared} - My Master always makes me promise to use my safe word if I realize my soft limit is something I don’t enjoy. I’ve never regretted testing my limits because more often than not I have enjoyed something I thought I wouldn’t. As long as you feel safe I wouldn’t worry.

sweet november​(sub female) - Don't loathe yourself for trying and "failing"....you can't fail if you tried! If you want to try something again only do it your own pace, which is your perfect pace with a little nudge now and then. You are brave!

Starlight82​(other female) - Thank you both. I need to find a way to settle my brain sometimes. It can over think things, when I should be trusting his guidence not questioning it xxx

Bunnie - Maybe communicate with him about it (?). Talk it through, maybe he’ll be able to help you clarify what’s going on for you.

Starlight82​(other female) - Thanks Bunnie I have sent him a message but patience is not my strong point lol. It would probably help if I have a smidgen more confidence in myself as well. Just more for me to work on lol

Zaque​(switch male) - I would echo the above sentiments. I too have found myself thinking.."no I could just stop this now". I have once or twice but that shouldn't stop you trying again at your own pace if you feel safe and want to try. It can be difficult, and I too questioned myself and my commitment when I have stopped a play scene. But everyone is different, even from day to day you feel different. Just take your time, communicate as much as you feel comfortable with, and don't forget, you are learning. We all are and it's ok to be unsure and ask questions. You must follow your head and you will discover how far you can go when the time is right.

Felicia Foster​(sub female){Kal} - These are all incredibly good ideas! :) Another something I might add is to talk through with your Dom why something is a soft limit to you- what exactly is it about that particular "thing" that makes it challenging. Perhaps it is something in the presentation or lead up that is troubling. Perhaps there is a way to build up to it that may make it a little more enticing. Just some thoughts...in the end, trust yourself to know what's best for you right now- soft limits can often change over time or not- only you will know. :) Love yourself along the journey. :)