Guilt is a powerful emotion. It can move mountains and crumble soldiers.
Like most submissives I like to please. Even in my everyday life to people whome i do not submit to. If that makes sense. I try my hardest to see a positive in most things and at a minimum at least learn a lesson from a bad situation. But guilt is one I struggle to find a good outcome from or a positive message.
How can you learn from guilt?
When other people put their expectations or desires upon you, and deliberately guilt you to see their side or to do what they wish. Yes it is selfish but in a way we all do it. Friends, family and employers. Feeding off of my typical nature. And they may even justify it saying it is because they love you or they think that it is best. Adding manipulation to the dirty mix. (My parents for example are great at this)
So the only leason I have learned so far is how to try and rise above the strong hold that guilt often forms around my throat. To learn to be more selfish. Not arrogant. Not disrespectful. Simply learning to say no, because I dont want to. To speak up and be honest. To accept that my wishes, thoughts and feelings are just as important and valued. Even if only to myself.
I also think that guilt can be addictive. Sometimes I use it as an excuse to keep me stagnant or as a sheild to keep myself from being hurt further. Even guilting myself over things that i just should not worry about. So this is my goal for myself. To not let guilt hold me so tight. It will always have a place in my lufe as I feel it keeps me grounded.
So a little cuddle is ok but not with a boa constrictor lol
