I've cracked it.
Why dick size matter to men?
For the inexperienced lover you lack the ability to communicate to a partner what it is you need from them so they can make you happy. I have rarly known person who gets more joy from giving to themselves and not giving to others.
The women I was fortunate to keep company in my youth (me being 18,21 they 26 and 42 respectively) have me some insight as I navigated what a female partner needs on multiple levels from a relationship.
For as much joy as they got from having sex with me they noticidly exhibited far more satisfaction from sitting down looking me in the eye and bonding with me. Honest conversation where each partner was heard and you felt reciprocated care.
These weren't the only things they enjoyed more then sex but the guess work for me was taken out of it. They knew with their experience in relationships how to communicate with me most of the time non verbally what they enjoyed and how much. This is what I see as a master skill unlocked in women hood.
My good behaviors were reenforced each time I did them. Not verbally but with affection that was scaled properly and dosed (like constant foreplay) well so I continued to do them. The great sex we had was a symptom of our healthy relationship like a cherry atop a well built sundae.
Contrasted to partners that I've had who are similar age or junior to me these skills were lacking. I didn't know what she did or did not like because there was no non verbal cues directing me. But when we had sex the moaning and movements of their body like I was giving to her what she could get no where else happened my brain read these singnals clearly. I was doing something good and this is what they wanted.
The way they communicated showed me that my BBC is the thing that they wanted so I was reenforced to think that's all they needed from me.
This is what I believe most men experience and at a point have to relearn how to please a women. This is why so many of us think that the size of our dick is the thing that matters.
What would we be if we learned sooner how to please a partner properly and how to please ourselves?
Women young and old- I'd like to hear if this is in line with what you'd like to see in your partners and experiences you've had.
Men- has a women ever done this for you and what was the experience like?
