I'm thinking about a Dom I met recently.
We're really compatible so far. We both like video games, the same genres of music and movies, and our hopes and dreams are similar. We have been talking for a few days now, and so far we're both really interested in learning more about each other and just seeing where the relationship develops. It's exciting for me, as I've mostly had interactions with 'insta' Doms in the past. This Dom is interested in ME, personally, not just about Sex and BDSM.
I've mentioned previously how that sort of thing is what I'm really looking for. I'm interested in not just a D/s Dynamic, but a REAL relationship, where we hang out and do things together that doesn't have to always be about Sex or something to do with the Dynamic. I want to be able to play video games or share funny quotes from the things I'm reading, or even just sit on the couch next to each other while we're both doing different things but still spending time with each other.
This Dom I've been talking to also wants this sort of relationship and that really excites me. He also is interested in doing Homesteading, which I'm really interested in. He wants to do a Dog and/or a Horse rescue which would be AMAZING, and just so many other things.
So how do you know they're the 'right' one? I think making sure that there are no red flags is part of it. He hasn't set off any of my red flags and I hope I haven't set off any of his. I think that being compatible in the way you think and do things is important. And, of course, being compatible in BDSM/Sex ways is important, too, but not always NECESSARY, especially if you're asexual or don't really care about sex. (Not saying I am either of these things but important to be inclusive.)
So.... in conclusion, I think when they're the 'right' one, you just KNOW, you know?
