amalthea

sub female

45

Single

 I am always open to conversation and friendships whether online or in person. In regards to a dynamic, I am only interested in IRL and looking at those that are in states close to me: DE, NJ, PA, NY, MD.

I also will not rush into any dynamic. Also, while I appreciate a well-endowed male, I am not interested in receiving pictures without my consent. Trust me when I say, you will not like my response.

I will not ask a Dom to be my Daddy. If someone is interested, the potential Dom would need to initiate. This communicates to me that they are able to take the lead. 

I am poly. I am married and my hub is supportive. He and my family are my top priority. Do NOT ever shame or criticize my husband. My marriage is healthy. We have our moments, but it is healthy and we always go back to us. If you are not good at sharing or have issues with jealousy, I'm not your chica. 

Submission is something I wish to give; however, I will not do so willy-nilly. Just because we chat, does not mean I will be submissive tChicago. Do not think that gives you the right to make demands. Suggestions? Sure. If I trust you as a friend, I will give respect. I will listen. 

What to know if you would think I could be a submissive for you:  I am naturally submissive. I am a babygirl and will explain further limits with a partner. 

I do not want to be the one in charge or take the lead. I want to treat it like a dance where I follow, you lead. You do not get to mold me into something I am not. The events in my life have put me in a position where I have become a natural leader. It is second nature for me to jump in and assume control. This is especially true if I sense discord or if I feel insecure. I recognize this as a defense mechanism that I am working on, but it is also a flag of warning. I am willing to be flexible and compromise, but not anything that will impair my core values. 

I have my own boundaries for myself as an autonomous individual. In regards to a dynamic, I require rules and parameters to follow,  or I will take control. I will not enter into any dynamic without a negotiated, written contract.

Problem with that? Move on. 

Does that make me a brat? Does that mean I am topping from the bottom? I do not believe it does. I am fierce.  I value communication and honesty. If you want that from me, you best lead  by example. I value action over words. 

I am not meek. I will ask questions and I am learning how do so in a way befitting a D/s relationship. I am open to that education, but only once in a dynamic. 

I connect with Daddy Doms and Doms as well as sappiosexuals. I am a babygirl/middle,  100% playful Brat, masochistic, and I love sensory deprivation. I am a sapiosexual and a demisexual. We have to be friends first. Above all I believe in safe, sane, and consensual for both sides of the slash.

Do not play games with me and I won't play them with you. I want the experience of a D/s relationship beyond jjustthe sex. I have plenty of toys and I am quite adept at using them to reach an amazing orgasm. It's just more fun with a partner, don't you think??

While I have struggled with feelings of shame regarding my interest in being submissive, spanking, kink, and my little side, I have been able to work through and embrace and explore. 

I have discovered my masochistic side is stronger than I realized, and I love impact play. I love a bruise and watching it heal. I a fascination with all things kinky. Even if a fetish or kink is not my preference, I love to learn. I plan on learning tea and cigar service.

I value education, honesty, playfulness, humor, security, and rules (though I do test.) It isn't just about sex, but rapport and relationship. I am happy in my marriage and love our dynamic. That being said, I crave a Daddy and a Protector. I am also intrigued by the Sadist.  I want someone who can help ground me, when I am starting to go too far astray. I need someone to call me on my bullshit and to hold me accountable. I have been the rock and stability for others for all my life, I want to be able to let go.

It isnt just  about sexual relations but intimacy. Boundaries, discipline, structure, nurturing. To have someone who doesn't need me to focus on them only, but is to focus on me. To this I submit. To this I obey. I can be free to be a little girl who challenges Daddy and longs to please Daddy but doesn't have to carry the weight of the world. I can be free to let the primal side and the incredibly sexual woman inside, free.

Nothing illegal...so yeah no kids. Scat, water sports, blood letting.

My focus has been on my responsibilities, my family = Results from bdsmtest.org == 100% Brat 99% Rope bunny 96% Brat tamer 86% Primal (Prey) 81% Submissive 76% Boy/Girl 67% Masochist 67% Voyeur 64% Exhibitionist 59% Switch 58% Daddy/Mommy 58% Experimentalist 56% Primal (Hunter) 54% Non-monogamist 53% Dominant 52% Master/Mistress 46% Ageplayer 44% Pet 41% Vanilla 40% Slave 39% Owner 30% Rigger 5% Sadist 5% Degradee 1% Degrader

Aug 13, 2020