Everyone, it seems, is so surprised by how exact I listed out what I want from a sub. I have been called cold-hearted, too procedural, and of course by male Doms in desperate need of a "real man" to stiff me right. In fact, I spend more time defending myself from male Doms than I do speaking to potential subs about my offer. Now a lot of people feel the right to tell me not to care and let it go, but I have every right to defend my view on the life I want.
I have been in several bad relationships that led me to want to be the primary Dominant in a relationship. I am not just looking to beat on a man or to find a slave to support me. I can and do support myself. I don't need a sub I want one, but not like a toy that I will get bored with. I want and believe that a Dominant and sub can be in love. But...I do not want to waste any more time with men who don't know how to say what they want. So to save time I laid out the majority of what I want. I think the total pages to my contract is at 10 pages and may be expanded on. There is nothing wrong with being direct and saying what you want.
No matter how many times I say let's discuss the contract some men cannot handle the conversation and push past it. They clearly are not looking for a Female-led relationship, they just want the BDSM side, which is fine. Each person is entitled to find what they want and need from a relationship, but I want more than the right to spank his ass. I want to be in control. I want a man who wakes up every morning wanting to do anything and everything I ask to make me happy. Regardless, of how amazing the male Doms think they are, I am just as confidently-cocky in the knowledge that I am worth it too.
Go ahead throw your little tantrums, boys, but shut-up saying you want an honest woman!
