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Submissive vs. Weakness

4 years ago. October 31, 2020 at 2:49 AM

SUBMISSION IS NOT THE SAME THING AS BEING WEAK!

Here is the difference for those who don't know (like all but two of you men).....

Submissive men are confident men who can handle life without a woman but seek out a Dominant so that they may joyfully experience life with a partner, who is attracted to and not afraid to assume a powerful role of decision-making and control in and out of the bedroom to alieve the pressures of life. Submissive men and their Dominant share the responsibilities of their lives by mutual agreement. The Dominant.....is obedient to the need of their submissive man to assume the Dominant role in the manner he needs. The submissive man......is willingly able to participate in the selection process to form a healthy and stable relationship.

Weak men cannot function without anyone controlling their life. There is no sharing of responsibility. There is no participation in the selection process and find themselves in dangerous, manipulative, and unsatisfying relationships (if they are even in one). They are exhausting, always underfoot, and constantly seeking attention. These men also are poor communicators who do not have any idea what they want. They practice a lifestyle that appears to be submissive. They are not able to realize a true D/s relationship when right in front of them. Nothing ever makes them happy, so they jump from one relationship to another. They usually suffer from depression, have multiple addiction issues, are unstable financially, unemployable or difficult to keep employed, and generally seeking a Dominant to "fix" their life.

There are times I have been with weak men because I was once stupid and I thought I could fix them. Those relationships made me realize how important safety is. I not only have been with weak men who claimed to be submissive but weak men who claimed to be Dominant. If I enter another relationship and that is going to lead to marriage and co-habitation that I will be allowed to receive a full background check, credit check, review of accounts and debts, and a drug screen. I think that is more than fair and would also show the same curtsey.

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4 years ago

Johnny slave sub(sub male){I'd most w} - I so agree with your premise that being submissive is not the same as being weak. I believe it takes the strength of a real man to love and submit himself to the woman he loves. Strength ...just to honestly admit to this trait of submissiveness. He needs to be communicative, because without that, he cannot respond in a manner to have input and give feedback to the growth of shared love. A sub needs confidence, because without it..he is unable to properly function outside the authority of his woman. How could he even approach a woman, if he lacked a variety of Alpha male tendencies. A sub can function on his own, but tends to do better in being happier through serving and giving obedience to his Woman for her greater happiness. A dominant Woman doesn't NEED a submissive man...but due to her knowing her inner nature...she knows that she WANTS such a man. Likewise, I for example have never NEEDED a domineering woman, but I've known and accepted my true inner nature...to WANT such a woman.
Two share together the responsibilities of the place and role they hold within the relationship. The woman as Dom...naturally controls and is in charge. That's simply what it means to Dom. The male as sub...submits through obedience. That's simply what it means to be a sub. If both had equal authority, then the entire dynamic of Dom and Sub, deteriorates into the typical mainstream type of relationship. Both Dom and Sub are equals as persons. ..but their interactions together. ..show the Dom as having more power. They share many vanilla activities and interests and run of the mill daily life functions, but life will center more naturally and in more ways around the Dom. If it doesn't. ..a true and honest Dom and Sub relationship doesn't exist. All of this, of course is my opinion...but over the years...I've learned a lot...on my own and too..through the words and teachings of the woman I had very long and loving relationships with, and each were authoritative to one degree or another. The postings you've presented in your blog..are excellent and quite thought-provoking. Thanks BestofTN! 😃

4 years ago

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Submissive vs. Weakness

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