Waiting

Be submissive to me, always, never deviate from this.

This is absolutely central to your duty to me.

Abstinence will focus your mind on me, me alone and my Gift will be letting you cum. However to receive that Gift you know that you will have to work hard. Very hard.  

Your dedication and focus keeps your attention where it should always be.

Give yourself to me in every way you can and then think hard and ask yourself have I lived up to Sir's standards and have I pleased him?

Key Words That Are Essential For My Submissive

The following for me really capture the power of the relationship between myself and my Submissive as they permeate through every part of our connection. They are cornerstones for the relationship and give certainty and structure.

Acceptance: knowing that The Rules, protocols and routines are set and that they will be there until Sir decides otherwise. This gives assurance when she is doubtful or troubled, knowing that Sir is there to guide and instruct.

Obedience: knowing that Sir’s Orders must be followed to the letter but also knowing that these are set for her development, growth and to make her the best Submissive that she can be.

Dedication: knowing that the focus on Sir is of paramount importance in all that she does, thinks and works towards. Family and work/career are very important alongside this but loyalty and commitment to Sir are essential.

Permission: knowing that Permission is needed where decisions need to be made. Again, this is all about Dedication and Obedience.

Control: knowing that Sir can direct behaviour, choices, physical position and Tasks to demonstrate that I am present even when there is physical distance between us. Control is essential, small but simple examples show this as does setting more difficult and challenging Tasks.

Reminders of the Five Words should not be necessary but form the basis of any Attitude Adjustment that may be required when things slip or when behaviour becomes wayward.

A Nice Little Distraction

As you have been somewhat playful (your definition, not mine I hasten to say) it is time to deliver a little learning session reflecting the need for you to change your attitude. I consider that you have been disrespectful and that cannot be allowed to pass unnoticed or unpunished because, as we all know, such behaviour spreads like wildfire and creates significant problems further down the line.

I tell you to get undressed and to stand with your back to me while I tie your wrists and put a blindfold over your eyes, telling you to be very still. I carefully turn you around and guide you to the couch where I lay you on your back.

Instinctively you open your legs, in an effort to please your Sir, mindful of now trying to redress the balance from earlier and anxious about not knowing exactly what is coming. Good strategy but Sir is unimpressed.

I tease your nipples with my fingers, making them ache and tingle, sensitive and getting sore yet wanting Sir’s attention to continue. Shame, because I stop and am silent.

The silence is deafening for you and the lack of Sir’s touch is worrying. What might I be thinking? What might be happening next?

What comes next is the sensation of a series of sharp but exciting ripples across your skin, dancing across your gorgeous tummy, zigzagging as Sir decides upon the pathways and the patterns, moving carefully across your nipples, making then tingle and dance. They are hard and aching for attention.

I move the Wartenberg Wheel back over your tummy and you instinctively arch your back, in full knowledge and anticipation of where I will be taking it next, exciting, tingling with anticipation and knowing that you have put your faith in Sir’s guidance and support. I move the wheel and run it along the inside of your gorgeous thighs, running the wheel back and forth, skimming your gorgeous pussy which I can see is wet and very excited.

I remove the Wheel from any contact with your body and ask you if you are sorry for your poor behaviour and attitude earlier: breathlessly you confirm that you are and that you will not do that again.

Possibly not, but almost certainly to be repeated in some form down the line.

I then run the wheel up and down the outside of your pussy. Lightly, carefully, with intricate patterns, gently teasing your clit, circling her, using the tips of the wheel to make her throb and tingle, making you gasp at the sensation, something new and something making you very wet and hot.

I remind you that your attitude needs to change radically and that I expect better from you, otherwise the Wheel will return and we will revisit this.

I leave you there to think about your poor behaviour, to reflect on why you failed to reach Sir’s standards and what you will do to redeem yourself.

You know that a firm fucking is about to be delivered to complete this attitude adjustment, something to satisfy your aching and longing to now please your Sir.

Now, should I allow you to cum, or do I withhold that, because, as you well know, that is a precious gift from your Sir, and this is correcting your mindset, is it not?

Submit to Sir

I will take you any way I want to, that is the deal.

In doing so, when it happens, taking you either quickly or slowly, is Sir’s choice.

Your anticipation and Adrenalin is so sweet, I can feel it in your skin, your hair, your breath, your lips But most importantly in your Taste.

I smell it.

I Taste it.

I love it.

Always.

Maintenance

Everything needs some form of Maintenance unless the item or commodity is a one-use product or service: the cup holding your Costa for instance (unless you want to take it home and use it as a temporary plant pot, possibly) or the cheap Biro pen you use to scribble your notes, make a shopping list or write to your Aunt from Cleveland (once it runs out, it is finished).

Maintenance keeps things running well and allows for corrective action to be taken, to make sure that there are no unwelcome surprises on the horizon. Think a regular 8,000 mile service for your car, identifying actions needed to keep the engine in pristine condition.

I think you get the picture and the principles here.

Maintenance is VERY important in making sure that my Submissive operates within the boundaries that have been set and which must be respected. To not have a process of Maintenance means that things are at risk of crumbling and decaying into a position where there is uncertainty, slackness, a lowering of standards and a loss of respect.

Maintenance needs to be a regular and programmed activity that refreshes commitment and dedication but which also, very importantly, gives certainty.

Maintenance needs to be focused on the following areas:

·        Emotional contact: regular support, guidance and introducing context and meaning. Just because you said that her welfare and thoughts were important once does not mean that you should just leave it there. Closeness and connection are essential.

·        Rules re-enforcement and refresh: this area needs attention to make sure that the guiding principles that you have set are being followed. Human nature will always be to seek out shortcuts and cheats around systems: the lifestyle is no different to this so a firm eye on behaviour is essential. Even the most placid Submissive will push against the Rules, pretend to be a little wayward and flutter her eyelashes to wheedle out of Rules. Reaffirming the Rules and correcting behaviour is a key Maintenance role.

·        Symbols: any jewellery or clothing that has been specified needs to be followed and your Maintenance needs to ensure that this is not forgotten, ignored or cast aside. This might be the start of a slippery slope which, if left unchallenged, will result in a lot of effort and work to pull back. Make sure that there is NO deviation here.

·        Protocols: daily routines need to be followed to the proverbial letter. At your Desk by a certain time, instructions on how to sit, leg positions, information about Breakfast and Lunch, specific clothing on specific days all figure here. Good Maintenance would be enforcing a change at short notice to keep her focused and diligent.

·        Spankings: an essential part of Maintenance. The Maintenance Spanking is just that, to act as a reminder of her place and her dedication. Not as hard as a Punishment Spanking but a firm and warm (no pun intended) cue that Ownership and Obedience are the cornerstones of the relationship. Delivered both when there appears to be a little deviation emerging but also valuable as a clear reminder that there is a position here to be honoured, cherished and kept.

·        Control: deviations are to be challenged the moment they appear. Like the weeds that grow in a path, this needs to be sorted as soon as it presents itself. Certainty is critical in the lifestyle and Control embodies this. Listen to what is being said, think about the views that you are hearing and then decide, clearly and firmly, what will be happening next. Bratty or challenging behaviour is to be expected from time to time but Maintenance is all about keeping Control which will benefit both parties.

·        Setting Tasks: from a Maintenance perspective set at least one Task each day, however small it might be, but vary this so that a pattern does not emerge. This could be writing in her Journal for you to see and comment upon, giving a book to read and instructing when to read a specific chapter or taking a specific picture for you to look at. When there are no specifics to focus upon her mind can wander away from the path that you have set.

·        Pleasure Control: giving permission to play and cum. This is very important as a Maintenance tool as it gives you the ability to reward for good behaviour and to punish for things that have displeased you by withholding this. Make sure that you use this tool wisely, set parameters and guidelines on what she is allowed to focus upon as she plays and ensure that you receive an appropriate level of gratitude for your gift.

Maintenance is always to be taken seriously to keep the relationship on track and with the focus upon you at the centre of everything.

Focus

Focus and application are the cornerstones of the dynamic and essential if the connection is to grow and develop. Any wavering or lack of attention detracts from the power of the links between us.

Needless to say that will neither go unnoticed or unpunished.

Think about driving down a country lane at night, woods at either side.  (The woods are lovely, dark and deep. But I have promises to keep. And miles to go before I sleep: I cannot resist a slice of Robert Frost!).

The lights of the car pierce the darkness, light the way and give a clear path, the light beam having boundaries, its centre giving direction and focus, moving around the bends and dips in the road accordingly. However the car moves the light beam remains the focus of my attention.

Focus: the main or central point of something, especially of attention or interest: a centre of activity, attraction, or attention: a point of concentration

1640s, "point of convergence," from Latin focus "hearth, fireplace"

Picking up the Latin, focus is where the warmth and heat sits in the connection.

A clear commitment to deliver, with dedication and enthusiasm, whatever is required of you, whenever it is required, with the solid intention of pleasing your Sir.

Focus is a two-way street however: my focus is upon moulding and training my Submissive as I go, making her the best she can be, both in the lifestyle but also supporting and directing in her career, interactions and involvement with others in the Vanilla world and in being a sounding board for her.

Her focus on me is to please and satisfy her Sir. My focus will involve challenge and pushing against boundaries where I feel that is beneficial for her, but not at the risk of extreme discomfort or unease.

Focus is immediate and is the music of our dance: this never switches off or quietens down.

Crave

Crave is a very powerful and emotive word, something that grips both the emotions and physiology: a fire from within that never subsides, that is ever-present even when other things are happening in life. It is the voice that will not be silent, the music that never quietens and the tidal wave on the ocean that washes into the beach over and over again.

Crave: something permanent, never to fade, always to be there, to long for, want greatly and to desire eagerly, wanting and seeking my approval.

Crave: from the Old English word Crafian. Related to the Old Norse word krefja, to demand.

Strong feelings of wanting something, desiring attention and focus that nurtures your submission to your Sir, feeling approval, excitement in permission given, even in the smallest tokens or issues of behaviour, attitude and expression.

Crave: knowing that you can proceed with your daily routines and tasks, safe in the knowledge that you have the consent that you need from Sir BUT also recognising that if I decide to change my mind and instruct something different, you will follow this unreservedly.

Crave is a switch that is permanently on. Crave is a switch that cannot be turned off.

Crave relates directly to your commitment to your Sir: in return you have my undivided attention. My desire and care for you, to develop and train you where it is needed: my control, my ability to punish where it is needed but also to reward and guide where it is warranted.

Above all else, Crave is the power of a strong and ever-growing commitment to your Sir.

The Stairs

It is time for bed, time for you to show just how much you love and hold dear your Sir.

You look so attractive in your new dark blue top, the colour suits you really well, your hair is up in your ponytail and we have been snuggled on the couch watching TV. Being the dutiful Submissive you have worn your little black skirt for your Sir and been very comfortable in doing so.

You SHOULD be comfortable with that as you know that Sir enjoys seeing your legs, that it pleases me and that your Number One priority is to keep me happy.

Your mind starts wandering about what bedtime will entail, will there be some punishment tonight? (You were slightly cheeky at several points this afternoon which seemed to have gone unnoticed – that said, Sir is always aware and fully switched on where challenge and disrespect appears).

You wonder if you have been attentive and focused enough on Sir today – should you have done more to please me, to show your devotion, commitment and total respect? Did you try to surprise me with gestures in public that only we recognise and understand or did you just forget about that edge and closeness?

Numerous questions that need considering.

Perhaps there might be a way of appeasing Sir before you get into the bedroom ……………………..

As you head up the stairs, with Sir behind you, time to use your legs to try to put Sir in a better frame of mind.

I am sure that you will know what to do ………………………………..

Date Night

I will tease and push you like never before: I will edge you to the very limit of your being.

I will make you give me a blow job until I alone am happy with your performance. Poor effort will equal severe punishment. It is very likely that I will make you weak with this.

I will trace the word Submissive into your inner thighs with my fingers, tongue and your lipstick.

 You will remember this ALWAYS.

I will bend you over my knee and spank you with my Paddle, your Hairbrush and my hand. You will feel my presence long after I have finished with you.

After that I will plug you with a selection of toys that are of MY choosing.

Then I will tie your hands behind your back, gag you, blindfold you and then fuck you. Hard.

I will deprive you of your senses until I decide that they can come back.

You will know that you are Owned and you will be happy with that.

Red is my favourite colour

I run my fingers through your hair and look into your eyes, telling you that you are mine.

You want to give yourself to your Sir, right there and then.

We kiss, lightly, lips touching gently. You want more, deeper, more intense, more Ownership and Control.

I push you slowly and gently to the wall, its coldness focuses your attention through your T shirt.

I kiss you again.

I put my left hand around your throat and press, just enough to make you gasp and draw breath as I drill my eyes into yours.

Your pulse starts to race and your breath gets deeper.

I slip my right hand into your red panties, chosen for you to wear today, and quickly find your clit, stroking and circling her, feeling your warmth and wetness growing.

I remind you that you are Owned and that I expect the very best from my Submissive.

You have much work to do ………