The Phoenix - Eros' Rising

Take a journey with me. See what I see and gain understanding. Many see the words that I write and are inspired, intrigued, and even moved.  And I appreciate the support and comments and have made some very dear friends. But, my journey is more. It is not only the light and the knowledge and my beliefs that you read about here. It is full of deep ravines where even the brightest of light cannot begin to penetrate. Valleys so deep that even the Moon and stars cannot be seen from its depths. 

It is from these places where my real leaning has taken place. It has shown me who I am and what it is that I am capable of. Only a few know the depths that I have been. The pain, the sufferings, the trials and tribulations. The wounds that were so deep that they should have been a mortal wounds bringing death it’s self. The smell of fire and brimstone that permeates your entire being. Even the most masochistic would have trouble bearing and the most sadistic could not dish out. Yet, here I am, standing before you in Love and desire. 

My scars are deep reminders of the journeys into those dark desolate places.  But it is because of my journeys to the deep that I have been able to journey to the highest of heights.  Past the Sun and stars themselves. To love those around me with no expectations placed upon it. Freely given. To be able to gain understanding of where people are at and provide comfort, guidance, and a place of refuge. To see through the pain of others in order to come along side of them to be there so they do not fall. 

I will thank someone that I consider a dear friend who help to open my eyes to this and helped me to understand that it is the balance of the darkness and the light that makes us who we are. And that if you do not embrace the darkness and celebrate it as we should, we will never stretch the boundaries of who we are. There must be balance. There must be a stretching. One cannot have the light without the darkness.
And remember that a Phoenix rises from the ashes. 

People have asked me about who I am and who I am as a Dominant. There is a short answer, as well as, a long answer. First and foremost, what you see is what you get. If you have read my blogs and profile, it should explain a lot about who I am and what I believe. 

I identify as a “Daddy” since I am big on nurturing and caring for my partners emotional and mental well-being. I am not talking about DD/lg.  I am very compassionate and loving towards my partners and, as a Daddy does, believe in discipline and reward both. My Discipline is to train to what is expected. If she knows not what is expected or how to do it the correct way, it is up to me to train her. I want to make sure that my partner knows that she is loved and cared for at all times. I am always looking out for her best interests in life and dynamic. I take full responsibility of any Power Exchange that takes place. 

The “Sir” side of my also exists and is ever present. My expectations are to be met. If they are not and she has been properly trained to those expectations, there are consequences to the actions. I expect that respect is given at all times, whatever the situation may be. Each and every action has a consequence. Good, bad, or indifferent. With that being said, I respect and honor her. I know that it is she that has given me the authority, by choice.  It is of her own free will that she has submitted to me. Whether the PE is light or it is TPE, she has decided her level and I work within those boundaries.  I will help to stretch her boundaries by providing a safe and trusting place for her to explore and to move freely within the realms of her sexuality and submission. I will help to guide and walk with her in her journey. 

I believe in the use of contracts, short term first working it’s way to long term. They spell out, by mutual agreement, the boundaries of the dynamic, what is expected of me, and what is expected of her. It is a reference point and a safety measure. 

I use journals, for myself as well as my sub. They can be read by either. It is a way for us to express feelings and or situations that are taking place that we may not want to talk about face to face at the moment. As a Dom, it allows me into her headspace so that I may be able to reflect on the situation and adjust accordingly. And the same for her so that the both of us can be proactive. The rule is that we cannot bring up what is in the others journal to the other person. It may only be brought up by the person that wrote it if they do choose. 

I will not enter into a dynamic without relationship. For me personally, because of my traits, it becomes a deep emotional connection. When I take on the role of Dominant, I pour all that I have into it. I do not leave anything on the table. So I need to protect myself, mentally and emotionally. Any that have seen my posts can understand. And I know that some reading this will already know. 

I am always learning. There is a lifetime of knowledge out there and I don’t know everything. But I am open and willing to learn. I can learn from Dom and sub alike. When it comes to knowledge, I don’t discriminate. If my partner has more knowledge in an area than I do, I will not hesitate to be “Topped from the bottom” until I can confidently take it on my own. (Communication is always key).  

That was a lot of information and I hope it is clear enough. As I stated, I have had a few people ask so I figured I would just clarify it publicly and then take any further questions as they come. 

~Eros

As an added note, I will not and do not expect anyone, that is not my submissive, to use “honorifics” with me. If we are kidding around that is one thing. Or if you choose to use it, that is your decision. But I do not expect it. (Needed to make that clear)

So Here I Am

Just Me

Lord Help Me

I Am Not An Exhibitionist

Believe it or not, this was hard for me to do.

My arms kick out because of my back (Delts) from doing construction that required a lot of that muscle group. 

Always makes me self conscious as well as other things.

But I did it so here it is...

I will just leave this here.

Vision....What is yours?  Do you have one or are you walking through this life on an aimless path that you hope will bring you to a place of happiness one day?  "A man without a vision shall perish!" This Bible quote could not be truer in it's wording.  If you do not have a vision, you will perish.  you have nothing to look towards in order to keep you on a path to bring you to a place that you want and desire to be.

As a Dominant, I have a vision.  I know where it is that I want to be.  I can see it in my minds eye.  Every step that I take, I take to bring me closer to that Vision.  When I talk to people that are new and are struggling to figure it out, the first thing that I ask is "What is your vision?  Where is it that you see yourself?"  Without that, you do not know what path to take.  Now of coarse, when you are new and just learning about the lifestyle, that can be a hard question to answer.  Even so, you have the ability to imagine yourself in the place that you want to be, that you want to get to.  It may be vague at first but, as you start to learn and talk with others, the pieces start coming together.  They form a picture in your mind of what it is you want, need, and desire.

When I talk with a prospective submissive, I ask about their vision.  I want to see if it lines up with mine.  If the visions are different, then the path will not be the same.  I am of coarse not talking about minor differences but of major ones.  The Visions have to align or it will just simply not work.  It will be doomed from the start.  Vision gives purpose.  It lights the path.  It rids fears, as long as you keep your eyes on it.

My challenge to all that read this is to sit back and close your eyes and picture that vision in your mind.  When it is as clear as it can be, write it down, put it in a safe place.  Go back and read it and add to it as your vision clarifies.  Remember that a person without a vision perishes and will wander in the darkness.  

OMG!!!

You all are so fabulously wonderful and amazing!!

After going through the names multiple times, There was 1 that really seemed to stick out to everyone including myself.  

ErosRising.  It spoke to something that was deep and resonated strongly.  It caused my to also rename the Blog to The Phoenix - Eros' Rising.

I really want to thank each of you for your help as it is time for me to start my rise out of the ashes.  I love you all dearly.

~Eros

So as many of you know if you have been following the blog, my contract with Psyche came to an end recently by mutual agreement. It was also agreed that I would be taking over our Cage account. With that being said, I am in the process of doing a name change for the account.

As Eros in the singular is already taken, I need to add something to it but am unsure as to what. I have carried the name Eros since I started the lifestyle 20+ years ago when I chose it and my mentor agreed that it fit perfectly with the type of person and Dominant I am. I will not change that part of it.   I am just looking to add to it. 

Why am I telling you all this?  It is because I am reaching out to those who have followed us and our writings to help come up with some ideas of what to add to my name. I would love to see what you all come up with and will take in to consideration all of the ones I receive. 

Let The Games Begin.

~Eros

So earlier this afternoon, I decided that I needed to take a walk and clear my head.  My walk turned into a 6 hour hike.  I thought about things that have happened recently and how they have effected me. 

I was doing some serious soul searching to say the least. (Hence why my walk turned into a 6 hour hike.)

Upon my return home, I open my computer to find that my last post had 67 new comments on it....  Thinking to myself that it was just a post with a song and it's lyrics, why would there be that many comments???  Upon opening the post, I soon found that shenanigans were afoot.  I have to say that after a very long "walk" and a lot of thinking, this was exactly what I needed. 

The 2 beautiful people that did this blessed me more than they ever could realize.  They are both truly one of a kind and very special. 

Thank you both for the special women you are and for putting a smile on my face and putting a tear of joy in my eye.

<3 to you both for your caring, warmth, and compassion.

~Eros

P.S. - The next time you all use my Dungeon, please put everything back where you found it and clean up after yourselves.....

"Love Song"

So you think that it's over, that your love has finally reached the end
Any time you call, night or day, I'll be right there for you
If you need a friend

It's gonna take a little time, time is sure to mend your broken heart
But don't you even worry, pretty darlin', 'cos I know you'll find love again

Oh, yeah
Love is all around you, love is knockin' outside your door
Waitin' for you is this love made just for two
Keep an open heart and you'll find love again, I know

Love is all around you, yeah, love is knockin' outside your door
Waitin' for you is this love made just for two
Keep an open heart and you'll find love again, I know

It's all around
It's all around

Love will find a way - darlin', love is gonna find a way
Find its way back to you
Love will find a way - so look around, open your eyes
Love is gonna find a way - love is gonna, love is gonna
Love is gonna, love is gonna find a way, yeah
Love will find a way - love is gonna find a way back to you, yeah yeah yeah

I know, I know, I know, I know