The Phoenix - Eros' Rising

So the other day, I was on a different site and ran across a thread.

I will not name the site or thread but, I will tell you the interaction that I had with the person that posted the thread.  It was interesting to say the least.

The thread was about acronyms that we use in lifestyle. (SSC RACK, etc.)

This person stated that he did not believe in those because they "don't go far enough" in his honest opinion.  So he came up with his own version of an acronym.

This is where the fun begins.

I politely replied to his post and told him that all he is really doing is just revamping what is already there.  Painting a horse a different color. to which he responded no, because those do not go deep enough. ?‍♂️

After much going back and forth with him, I finally just agreed to disagree with him.  (The conversation remained civil)

This person is an educator....  ?‍♀️ or at least that is what he claims.

My problem here is that, as an educator, you should decide how deep you want to take the meanings of SSC, RACK, etc.

The one thing that I have learned in Lifestyle is that the acronyms were made to be simple and easy to remember.

Safe, Sane, Consensual

Risk Aware Consensual Kink

Personal Responsibility In Consensual Kink

Just with these 3 here, there is so much to unpack.  For a newbie (No disrespect intended), these are easy to learn.  As you go deeper into the lifestyle, you bring out more meanings to each one of those.  Anyone that has been in LS for a long time can go into a whole thesis on what each word means intimately and how they all interconnect.

So my question to people is, why would you want to reinvent the wheel?

As an educator, isn't it your responsibility to break it down to what level you are talking to?

IDK, maybe I am just an idiot who takes the lifestyle I live to seriously?  But I know exactly what each of these mean and can break them down to a novice, intermediate, and have a full on discussion with those that have been in LS for a long while about each letter and what it means.

One thing that the guy couldn't or wouldn't answer was the acronym 

S.H.I.C.K.

Do any of you know?

Anyway - this is what happens when I sit smoking a Romeo Y Julieta while drinking Glenfiddich 14 - Enjoy.

I will just leave this here. ???

It is that time once again!!

For all of the Star Wars Fans out there, it is May 4th.

Here is a little fun for Star Wars Day.

I want to take a bit to talk about and acknowledge the broken toys out there.  A dear friend once told me about them and what I learned has stuck with me ever since. 

The following is my own story about it.

You see, things happen to toys when they do not have the right owners who take care of them properly.  They are thrown around and used in ways that they are not meant to be used.  They are taken for granted, abused, and thought of nothing more than just a toy.  Over time, the toy becomes tattered and broken.  So broken that the owner just throws it to the side and goes and finds another toy to replace it.

Some may think that the toy is to broken and beyond repair.  That is until a skilled craftsman comes across the toy.  As he picks it up, he looks at the damage that was done by years of abuse and misuse.  And even thru all the dirt and missing pieces, he can still see the beauty of the toy.

Gently, he takes the toy in to his loving care.  First he examines the toy, every broken part, scuff, and tear.  He thoroughly examines every detail from top to bottom, inside and out.  Then meticulously and carefully, he begins to put the pieces of the doll back together, one by one.  

Under his watchful eye and steady hand, the doll begins to be rebuilt until one day the broken and tattered doll is once again clean and whole.

Even though the doll has been rebuilt, the craftsman knows that it will never be the same as it once was.  For something that is broken is never the same.  But the craftsman also knows that with the loving care that he shows it, the doll will stand in its new glory with new strength and will be precious to the craftsman forever more.

You see, there are broken toys among us.  And some just pass them by thinking that they are worth nothing at all.  I am here to say that this is a false perception.  It takes a Master Craftsman to be able to see through the brokenness and the dirt.  It takes someone that is patient, and understands Traumas and the pain it causes.  It takes someone that can understand their submissive and what they could be going through and/or reliving at any given time.  To lead them by the hand and bring them back to a safe place. 

To understand a broken toy, you must be able to see the world through their eyes, their perception of reality.  It is not the same as a "normal" person.  This needs to be understood.  It takes patience and consistency on the part of their Dom.  It can be a slow road for them to build up trust, to learn that where they are now is not the same as where they have been.  

It take gentleness and firmness, and knowing when to use which.  Owning a broken toy is not for the average Dominant. It takes someone special, which is why they are very cautious when they are vetting a dominant.   

I think that my wife/submissive put it the best way in a recent comment.  

"I am not the safest toy in the box."

Forget about the kink for a moment.  Being a Dominant/Master, under what would be considered "Normal" circumstances, is not an easy task.  We lead by example.  We look to build up our submissives to be the best versions of themselves.  We have rules and tasks for them to complete in order to accomplish this.  It makes makes us proud to see them continue to transform into this version. 

Now add on things like PTSD or Complex PTSD, Psychological Disorders, Disassociation, Traumatic Brain Injuries, Abuse Survivors, Neurological disorders, etc..  You now have taken the Normal Dominant's tasks and increased them 1000 fold. 

I can tell you though, from my personal experience, to see the healing and transformation take place.  It is worth every second of every minute of every day to me.  The pride I feel in my wife/submissive far exceeds even my expectation.  

To all of the broken toys out there. You are not forgotten.  It is only a matter of time before your Master Craftsman finds you, if they haven't already.  Stay strong, be vigilant.

To all of the Left side of the slash.  Be kind and loving to your toys, whether broken or not.  Treat them with care and the tenderness they deserve.  

Most importantly - COGNOSCE TE IPSUM

Your submissive depends on this.

Welcome to the Dumpster Fire!!

I do not know why I do it to myself?

Maybe I am a gluten for punishment?

Maybe I am just Old School?

What am I talking about you ask?

Well, I have a knack for ending up engaging with people that simply have no clue what-so-ever.

Not sure why I do it but, It happens.

It seems to be that now and again, I run into people that throw on dress pants, shoes, shirt and a vest after watching 50 Shades or seeing some YouTube videos and poof!!!  They are a Dominant, Master, Daddy, etc...

Please do not misunderstand what I am saying here.  I am all for people coming into the lifestyle.  The more the merrier in my humble opinion.

My problem here is that we have way to many people that are coming in to the Lifestyle that are ill educated, trained, and/or mentored.

Just because they watch 50 Shades, 365, The Story of O, or some YouTube videos, they think that they have it figured out.

Then they come here or some other site and start vomiting up what they think is lifestyle.

I know, I know, I know, that every ones flavors are different and I respect and celebrate that fact.  that is not what I am talking about.

I am talking about those people that come in and expect others to just kneel and bow before their greatness because the stuck a tag on their name that says Dom or Master.

These people have no clue of what it takes to earn (Yes I said it) those titles.  

What we had to do and learn.

Talking to another person that I didn't agree with fully, which is okay, It made me realize that terms like SSC and RACK are being used like Clam Chowder in a Boston Restaurant.

They have lost their meanings as no one can properly define what they actually mean.  (Don't believe me?  Ask someone what they mean.)

They have become T-shirts and Bumper Stickers.  A Trend if you will.

These people have no respect for a collar or even knows what that collar means.  (Again, ask around and find out)

Some said to me "Respect is earned, not given" (Paraphrased)

What he fails to understand is that in lifestyle, there are things that you respect no matter what.  This includes a collard sub and the fact that they are with a Dom/Master.  You never come at or engage someone that is collared without talking to their Dom/Master first.  Respect the collar!!!

Also, respect is a given in this lifestyle.  I respect all that I meet until they give me a reason not to.  I know that there are those out there that have lost respect for me due to something I said or did.  I can acknowledge that and ask those people for forgiveness.  However, I don't have respect for someone that doubles or triples down on stupidity.  We can all learn something and those that think they have all the answers in this lifestyle are not only ignorant, but dangerous also.

Last but not least.  Do not call yourself a Master unless you have earned that title!!  

I know there is the Master/slave dynamic, but that does not make you a Master in this lifestyle in the community at large.

Those with the Title (Not Honorific) of Master have trained their asses off in their communities to earn those titles.  It is a dirty mark across what they have rightly earned when someone comes in and says I am Master so and so.  It is like some who never served in the Military that puts on a uniform and prances around saying "Look at me!!"  Piss off - where are your credentials?  you have none?  Then go pound sand you wannabe.

Again, This is not about those that are coming in to learn about the lifestyle.  They are open and have integrity by stating that they are new and want to learn.  For those people, I salute you.  My advice - Do some homework and find a person to mentor you.  There are plenty of us that are here to help you along in your journey.  Make sure you vet them.  DO YOUR RESEARCH!!!!

To the rest of you.  Piss off!!!  You know who you are and so does the rest of the community.  Contrary to popular belief.  Those of us in this community are a tight knit bunch and we talk.  Believe me when I say this....  Word gets around fast.  So go blow smoke up someone else's ass because we aren't having it any more!!

FAFO

So Myself and another person, unintentionally hijacked a blog while reminiscing about some of the challenges that we use to do here on the cage.

First I would like to publicly apologize to MK for hijacking her blog.  ?

Thank you for being a good sport about it.

It did bring back some memories of some good times that we, as a community, had when we use to do those challenges.

One of my favorites was the reading/voice challenges that we did where someone would post up something and get someone to read it.

So in talking to this other person, I went back through and found one of the ones that I did.  

Those were fun times.  Here is the link to one of the favorite reads that I did on a Poem from TKP.

https://thecage.co/blog/userblog.php?blog_id=117847&postid=57299

I hope that you all enjoy it and Thank you MK for the reminder.

~Eros

A milestone has been completed.
We are now ready to move back in to our bedroom.

Took a few days to complete it but the custom hanging bed is completed.

We are stoked to start using it.

I present to you all the finished product.

Would you sleep here? 
???

For those of you that continue to follow the craziness of our renovation of the Master Bedroom, here is what has taken place to date.

Painting is completed. Just the trim left to do. 
We are doing a hanging bed so I completed the bed frame and platform. Just need to cut the ply to go on before the King bed. 
Also the blackout curtain is up. 
Part of the tiles for the ceiling came in today so those  start going up this weekend. 

Here is a little sneak peak of what it is starting to look like. 

I am feeling a bit….  You get the meaning I am sure.  ???

Here is a "cute" song I stumbled upon....

~Eros ❤️?❤️?

Finally home after a week out in Massachusetts. Yes, you heard that correctly, we were in Mass. ?

It was Hekate’s Birthday, as well as both her adult daughters and a couple of other family members, so we decided to take a road trip out there to see everyone since she hasn’t been out there since late 2021. Her, myself, and the 3 four footed children. ?‍♂️

it was a good week and we were able to spend time with her mom and step father and her daughters. And I was able to relax and spend some downtime from work. 

before anyone says anything, we did not tell anyone of the trip, as we knew we would be tied up all week. (Figuratively speaking. Get your minds out of the gutter)

We are planning a special trip again come Halloween time.  We are thinking of announcing exactly when so that if any friends would like to get together  that are in the New England area, we can possibly set it up. 

But for now, it is good to be home and getting back to work on the renovation of our room.

here is a couple of pics from the VRBO we stayed at. 

And here is a visitor we did have. 

I wonder what I am going to use these for??

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