I see a lot of people here and other sites that are frustrated with not being able to find partners and the such. (Myself included)
One of the things that I have noticed is the lack of authenticity from people. It is as if who they portray themselves to be online is not who they are in the “real world”.
This is incredibly frustrating to a lot of us that are seeking real connections.
When Hekate and I met and we started talking, I told her straight out that “What you see is what you get!” I did not hide who I was or am with her in the beginning. I did not hide what I came out of or where my path was leading me. I did not hide the damaged parts of me and only show her the parts of me that were my best qualities. That would have been a disservice to her and what we started would have been on a flawed foundation.
She did the same. I knew from where it was that she came and what she had been through. The good, the bad, and the ugly. It is because we were authentic with one another that we are here where we are today. Are we perfect? No!! But we are perfect for each other. We continue to grow and we continue to be authentic with one another.
Is it easy, generally yes. Is it scary. Yes. Being authentic means that you are also vulnerable. And as many of you may know, that shit can be used against you if you are not with the right person. It can be cause you to shut down and not want to be your true authentic self. But, I digress.
My main point is this. Do not let others frustrate you. Be authentic. Stay true to yourself and show that authenticity to others when talking with them. Let them be authentic with you. It is what builds a foundation into one hell of a great relationship.
And if someone isn’t being authentic with you, then they are not your person(s).
If you are the one not being authentic, then I suggest you take a look in the mirror and do some deep soul work until you can be authentic with yourself and others.
