My Random Thoughts

“My” Dom will not

• have a cock pick as a profile picture or anywhere on his profile. He’ll have class!
  (More power to anyone that does – you do you!)
• have an empty profile description that leaves me wondering who he is and what he is looking for.
• immediately ask for naked pictures. Although it’s FL, my pictures show quite a bit.
• disrespect me.
• be inconsistent.
• ignore me.
• lie about being married or in a relationship.
• establish rules and doesn’t expect me not to follow them.
• skip proper aftercare.

“My Dom” will be

• Accepting.
  He will accept me for who I am and will take my needs and desires into consideration at all times.
• Communicative.
  Communication is essential in my D/s relationship. My dom will be very interested in me, not just my sexual wishes. He will ask me about my needs, wants, desires, fears, thoughts, limits, etc. He wants to know all of me to ensure he never endangers me physically or emotionally.
• Confident.
  He will be successful in his career, or at least happy doing what he is doing. Although he has whips, chains, etc., he will not need them to be dominant. A whisper in my ear and maybe a firm grip of his hands around my neck will do the trick just as well.
• Consistent.
  He will be consistent and will never let me wonder where I stand with him. Inconsistency is a very unattractive and dangerous trait to the submissive who services him, in this case, me.
• Courteous and Respectful.
  He will not use yelling or insults as a form of communication and he will not ignore me. Ever. Point, blank, period.
  Honest and Trustworthy.
  He will be truthful and open so that I feel comfortable being completely emotionally naked in front of him. Honesty is based on trust, and without that, there will be no relationship.
• Loyal and Consistent.
  He will be loyal to me. He will not seem desperate for my attention, but will unambiguously let me know that I have captured his attention. I will eventually be the center of his attention and there will not be another woman that he is remotely interested in.
• Patient.
  He will not demand my submission, he will earn it. He will wait for me to be ready instead of pushing me into anything I am not yet comfortable with. At the same time, I will be open to new ideas and he is allowed to expect that from me. He will give me the appropriate time and will teach me how to serve him. He will take his time to select me as his submissive because he is serious about me, wants to be able to be good to me, and lives up to my needs.
• Enjoy Responsibility.
  He will take responsibility for my body and emotional well-being during scenes. He will also make agreed-upon decisions for me in everyday life. He will make mistakes, and admit to them.
• Put my Safety as his Focus.
  He will be willing and able to research and educate himself on the D/s lifestyle. He’ll learn the proper way of playing with any toys and equipment before using them on me. Because my well-being is most important to him.
• Have Self-Control.
  He will always be level-headed and won't lose control over his behavior or actions.