A return to the most fundamental aspect....
Being fully present in body, mind and environment. Attention can be cast to wherever one's heart desires. If I am not feeling desirable, I can change that; if I am not feeling satisfied, I can change that; if I am wanting, I can change that; if I am disconnected, I can change that. Shifting one's perspective is a superpower that is often forgotten or seemingly unattainable. It's like a switch, is it not? For example, if I am sitting in a waiting room, impatient and bored, I turn my attention to feeling and thinking about my beautiful pussy (or any sensual zone that occupies my attention) and I can feel the tingling pleasure of arousal. Instantly, a switch is turned on in my mind and I am focused on my body and, through thought, bring myself pleasure. The act of waiting (feeling frustrated) has now changed to meditating (feeling pleasure) purely because I shifted my focus from outside distractions to internal clarity.
This binary switch underpins the psychology of ritual. Ritual is used to transition from one space to another. Performing acts that have prescribed associations and understanding gives purpose and clarity to the mind; distracting, and often frivolous, thoughts are removed to make space for where a person's full attention is desired. My mind = my reality. It moves like water ?️.
Rituals are most important to me right now, for they are the gateways to where I want to go. Exploring D/s dynamics has taught me this fundamental lesson and I look forward to furthering this journey ??☺️.