Well here’s a good one for you………Please let me know your thoughts on this situation.
My husband Michael of 31 years has just passed away and I have a problem.
He kept his old friends secret so I never knew their contact details or even met or spoke to them.
Now he has passed away, I have no way to contact them.
He never wrote their details down.
They never visited him while I was there.
His mobile phone was an old button phone and he never used the contacts list and always cleared any messages immediately after reading or sending them
He never emailed any of them - he was a total technophobe.
A TV remote was more than he could handle.
He always told me he had arranged his funeral. The plot, the casket and the headstone to make sure he got what he wanted. Attendance was invitation only.
I cannot find any paperwork for it or details at home.
One of his best friends is seemingly a top lawyer who has his will and these funeral details in his safe, but I don’t know who this is.
I have no way to tell his friends of his passing.
Yesterday I put a notice in the morning and evening newspapers with my husband’s name, along with a working name he used all those years ago, and asking his friends to get in touch.
They all know each other and where the house is, but I have had no contact.
My man is still in a fridge at the hospital mortuary, and I haven’t assigned a funeral director yet because I believed he had this all arranged.
I’m now running out of time (two weeks on Tuesday and I just received the physical death certificates) and will have to make my own arrangements which is going to cost me thousands.
some people have suggested this lawyer doesn’t exist. I did see him at a distance 30 years ago - at least Michael told me it was this lawyer, and he has never contradicted anything he told me about this guy which makes me think he is genuine.
I have been contacting funeral directors, cemeteries, funeral plan companies, etc and no joy there yet.
I still have more places to contact but I’m running out of ideas and time.
What do you all think?