Is It Easier for You to Make Friends with D-types or s-types? Why?
Definitely submissives. Without a doubt.
Throughout my kink journey, I’ve met some incredible people, but the ones who’ve left the deepest mark on me have almost always been other subs. There’s justy a way we get each other ... that quiet, unspoken understanding that comes from living on the same side of surrender.
We share a language that doesn’t always need to be explained. The same emotional roller coasters, the same highs of connection, and the same heartbreaks that come when trust doesn’t go the way we hoped. There’s this deep empathy between submissives... a softness, but also a strength ...that makes it easier to open up and be real.
I’ve made multiple sub-friends that I hold very close to my heart. They’ve become the people I go to when I need to untangle feelings that only another submissive could understand. There’s a comfort in knowing someone else has walked through the same internal conflicts...the mix of longing, vulnerability, and pride that comes with this path.
Now, with D-types, it’s different. I’ve never really met a Dominant who just wanted to be friends. It usually starts with interest...maybe light flirting, curiosity, that subtle energy that naturally exists between Dom and sub ...but somewhere along the way, the line gets crossed.
And once it’s crossed, it’s hard to go back to “just friends.” Either they wanted something deeper and it didn’t work out, or we tried to be friends afterward, and it just felt off. There’s always that unspoken dynamic in the background. Not saying that I don't want dom friends.
With submissives, there’s no power play. No underlying tension. Just understanding. We connect because we see each other, not because we want something from each other. It’s a community of hearts that beat to the same rhythm....people who understand the drive behind submission and the beauty that comes with giving yourself so openly.
So yes, it’s much easier for me to make friends with subs. Because they don’t just understand my kink ... they understand me and I understand them💕
Xoxo
Nirvana