This is one of those deals where I've been struggling with what to post and how much to share. Part of the problem has been, too much other stuff going on in my life that would be of no interest to the folks on here.
But the stuff that WOULD be of interest to people on here- the kink-related stuff; I'm still not sure I'm ready to share that.
Part of the reason is, ironically, fear of being shamed.
Kink shaming.
It's one of those things that seems inevitable in the BDSM/fetish scene. It doesn't have to be this way, but I fear that sometimes, it is harder to avoid than some might think.
Let me start by saying that I myself am no exception, yes; I have been guilty of it too. And before I go any further, let me apologize for it straight away. It was one of those deals where I didn't mean to come across that way, but it came out that way, because it was a dynamic I did not understand and could not relate to. I identify as a heterosexual, submissive male with certain kinks. With that said, the "Daddy dom/little girl" kink is not really my thing. I didn't understand it, and could not relate to it. So, to those who are into this dynamic, I apologize for any thoughtless comments I may have made about this in the past. Clearly that is outside of my own interests, but I will respect those who pursue it.
Because some of my own kinks may be a bit too extreme for some people. They could not understand it, may not relate to it, and that is fine.
There was a female domme who used to be active in the forums who would go off on how "Cringy" male submissives were. Though she identified as a domme, I found it odd that she would shame male submissives like this. Was it their particular kinks that turned her off? Her general lack of interest in men in general, or was it simply too many obnoxious men trying to pursue her who not only lacked compatible interests, but lacked basic tact and etiquette? Either way, it came across to me as kink shaming submissive men.
I have an interest in...(should I say this?) toilet play. I won't elaborate any further, other than it involves being used as one. The degradation, emasculation and abuse, along with the absolute and utter submission this entails, is a huge turn on for me, BUT- it is also the kind of thing I would feel uncomfortable discuss in any detail on a forum- because understandably most people would find this as, well, kinda gross. I would probably be kink shamed if I brought this up too frequently.
But rather than give into to fear of being "Shamed" about my own kinks, I will try to do my part, as much as I can, and not do the same to others who share their deeper fantasies. And to continue to learn, and be open minded and non-judgemental.