Rose's Thorns.

Once again sitting in watching TV on 'date night' friday... yawn. In an aalternative universe there better be a rosethorn haveing a much better time. 

just wanted to share some love, there is a lot of interesting and creative images (not neceserally sexual either) its nice to have such a mix. 

ive just been having a ponder through dating ads and Dom seeking sub ect, in the UK there seems to be a huge majority of Doms who dont put anything on there profile yet are seeking subs. 

If there is nothing there i have no clue if we may be compatible or not, i am not telapathic you need to communicate a part of that is your profile. 

In saying that having a lack of communication is not a good starting point for any D/s. I am posting this up in the hopes that there are Doms who maybe have just forgotten to fill it out, there are very few based in the UK who have filled it in. 

consider this a hello and friendly reminder. 

The term Alpha male comes to mind, unfortunatly many consider this to be agressive, assirtive and very much in your face. This is not what an Alpha male is, they take care and protect what it theres, they work hard to gain your trust and keep it. 

There is a huge difference between the i controle you and i will protect you, one takes your submission the other you give to them to protect. 

Its been a long time, it would be nice to feel protected, finding that person can take a while tho so the search continues  

 That is the bit i miss the most, feeling safe enough to fall asleep in someones arms. 

of online dating, the world of tinder seems have infultrated everywhere... 

no i dont want to see your dick before i see your face...

There was a place where once a heart was. 

Long since dead, 

as much as i miss the dynamic that can be had within this style, which is special type of connection. 

Its now burried 6 ft under... 

There are many aspects to my life, as im sure there are for many of you, this is just one. 

Sectioning areas out doesnt always work well in the real world. 

This can depend on your version of the real world, what you have going on. 

black eyes shine challangeing, 

ohhh how i like to challange maybe a little too much... 

Its stiring slowly, but its there, burried 6 ft under,

which is where it will stay... 

Dont expect to stop and smell the roses without getting a thorn in your side,

consider this a fair warning. x

;) 

Mean while, little miss innocent is queing up to get a coffee, hiding in plain sight. 

you never know who is a shark. 

or a rose with thorns. 

when you get back into the dating game, this in its self can be a difficult one, when you are a BDSM chick and have certain likes it can be more difficult, i really hate online as in really dont like it. Its like trying to fill aplications out in code to try and find others into BDSM, rather than see someone body language and see if you click. There is a difference between online chat and meet places like here and the constantly filling out aplications ect, its exhausting. 

If you Add into this that as a woman im not interested in kids... its not weird okay, im normal but for some reason it gets very weird reactions. That i really dont agree with marrage, i dont think you need it to feel that connected (just personal opinion, it changes for other people) and a long long list of health issues..... 

i really hate dating, basically im a steryotypical guy in some ways, but as a woman the response you get is an interesting one. 

And then are the nights out where men like to grab anything thats on show or not (doesnt seem to matter) and get verbally abusive when your not interested. 

sigh... dating, it sucks. 

even just to meet someone who doesnt insult me and the posibility of becoming a friend or having a good afternoon but agree we have different aims shake hands and walk away politely would be a breath of fresh air. 

On a lone hill, stood a tree

leaves green swaying in the wind, 

weathered by natural forces, 

it became bent crooked and withered,

brown and bare,

but still it stood tall, 

for all to see. 

Having a lovely time chilling out with my bestie last night, it was a lovely night going out and just as i said 'being single is awesome' i well jynxed it. 

dancing the night away with my friend was lovely, having some guys come over and put his hands all over me and my ribs causing a panic attack was not... and this my friends is the reality of being a BDSM chick in the real live dating world, consent isnt as explisit in vanilla land. 

Me and my friend look after each other and its a good thing too, as a woman going out when you dance for 5 min and say no its automatically like a knee jerk reaction to act like your ego is attached to you ability to pull and for many men i suppose it can be. 

It still amazes me how many consider BDSM as lewid and offensive with a splash of non consent when the truth is consent is ALWAYS talked about openly first and agreed or disagreed, its actually the opposit. 

Going back to vanilla land can be a really difficult experiance. More so than many might think. 

Ribs are a trigger for me and when in BDSM i know they will not be touched unless i say okay first, when in vanilla land you say no once, twice and again and again and again to no avail, they continue regardless as its not taken seriously. 

The good thing is this hasnt put me off getting back out there but i wanted to share this experiance to show how difficult it can be. 

This was a new term to me yeasterday, but a really insightful one. 

Would anyone like to offer there take on it ? 

Here is mine, 

when you go weak at the knees seeing Master, you still can not believe what you did last week, but your pushed until your mind empties and there is no fight left and your flying free, its a wonderful experiance and in some ways the journey is just as good to get there.