I'm curious if anyone else has come to a similar conclusion.
The dating world is a disaster zone but I'm noticing a trend among men and wondering if other women are experiencing it.
I've been rejected by 3 men in 18months... ouch.
Some of them quite serious relationships.
I'm finding some of them are lacking confidence, self esteem and think they are doing me a favour by not being with me because they don't think themselves good enough.
I don't think men realise women judge competence in men, differently to men in general. They think they aren't enough. I can't describe the mental and emotional safety just from belonging and being with a man. I can sleep at night. Unfortunately men think they need the biggest house, the biggest car, the biggest TV... I don't care about such things.
Honestly me going 'I will sort that out', 'I don't need roses' and 'I can do this' probably hasn't help as they feel worse. That they aren't capable.
But the economy is crap... for millennials everywhere it's a challenge. How do I support the guy to feel like a man without me stepping in to sort stuff... which then makes him feel incompetent. Because we are now living in a situation where this is necessary and what does that mean for dating if its putting men off relationships.
I really struggle with depending on anyone other than myself, so even if he is secure... for my own mental sanity I would need to have my own security too.
I'm lost with how to navigate this...
Any men out there.. any suggestions on how to make a man feel like a man?
Thoughts?