doms (and i am using that term extremely loosely here) who immediately try to talk you out of limits of any kind that they think are unnecessary are, well, not the worst, but definitely pretty bad. at least they're telling you up front that they have absolutely no respect for your limits, well-being, or autonomy, as opposed to those people who pretend to respect your limits but push past them at the first opportunity, but they're still real shitty.
if i tell you that i don't give my phone number to people i don't know, you don't get to decide that my limit is silly, or pointless, or bad for me actually. i'm submissive, but i'm not YOUR submissive, so you do not get to make that determination! that limit is there for a reason, and that reason is men like you who think two coherent messages mean i'm your property now.
if you don't understand the harassment that women, both in the kink scene and out of it, have to put up with from men who feel entitled to our time and attention, then i hate to be the one to break it to you, but: you are one of those entitled assholes.
(and before the first "not all men" pissbaby comment: if you're not that entitled asshole, then you should also hate those guys who are making women put up extra walls. the second half of the phrase "a few bad apples" is "spoils the bunch," so instead of crying to me, maybe make those assholes fall in line.)
(yes, i am bitchy today. i've had enough of men deciding they know my limits better than i do though.)
