Knowing when to be her Dominant,and when to be her Man.
Written By: _WORDS_BY_FOR
I know of many D/s dynamics breaking down because the Dominant doesn’t recognize the times when its more important, to just be a man to their woman, instead of always being in the Dominant state.
Of course this depends on the sub, but I still feel that being a man, and showing your woman the emotions you feel for her,are of uppermost importance.
Does this make you less of a Dominant to allow yourself to kneel beside your sub when she needs you, to be on the floor with her?
Of course it doesn’t!
It shows your strength and love, and it comforts your sub to know that you are feeling what she is feeling,giving her peace of mind to feel your strong,masculine body,wrapped in hers,and reassuring her that you will not leave her side.
Put aside the titles of Sir or Master or Daddy, to just be yourself with your beloved woman.
Titles can become so cold and overused,that sometimes it’s more intimate and loving,to just enjoy those little cute names you use for each other…
It encourages affection,and in turn, deepens the bond of the dynamic.
You will all have heard of the prayer ‘Footprints in the sand’ im sure..
And this prayer is how i invision myself carrying my woman through her hard days. Two sets of footprints become one, not because I have left her side, but because I am carrying her,and her bourdons,not letting her fall.
This seems very much like a Dominant trait, but with the protocol and titles stripped bare,you are simply being the best man you can be,for the woman you love.
Recognize those times in her voice that she just needs YOU.
Not your Dominance.
Allow yourself to weep with her. Feel her pain!
Of course it is not always easy to tell if she needs the Dominant or the man, and can only develop over time, with lots of talking,and the development of trust.
A good Dominant will trust in his instincts,and see the subtle changes in her voice,her eyes,or body language.
Know the difference between the Dominant and the man in you.
Seek it out and never be afraid to let her see it.
Being the Dominant 24/7 and giving out tasks, dealing with corrective behaviour, talking to her like a teacher etc, can very quickly become overwhelming,if you never just allow yourself to
BE HER MAN.
