The one thing I believe every submissive must possess is *selflessness.* I think it is impossible to offer submission with a *selfish heart* or *selfish desire*.
True submission is a gift. The gift of allowing a Dominant to become His true and complete self, thru you.
This cannot be done without trust, honesty and in my mind selflessness as well as a touch of compassion.
To give in order to *gain solely for self* in a D/s relationship, by my standards, is dishonest. You cannot build trust on dishonesty.
When you build a sand castle - you build it back away from the tide... by the shitty sand. But you put in the work bringing bucket after bucket of water to that ass sand till its just like the good sand the tide washes over. If made right, hell... your castle could be there tomorrow. Be lazy and do the what spares you the work, what suits you at the time. Build that shit near the tide. Have fun making it but its not gonna last. The tide washes away all the bullshit...
No way you can be a submissive and not see past the nose on your own face. But the ruse! The ruse of even having a gift to give.