Over the past twenty years that we have been involved in power exchange, we have used a variety of terminology. Language, like life, changes.
Here is the language we currently use within our tribe:
Belum (benevolent leader)- leads a power exchange relationship, including responsible for the actions and words of those that follow. There is no title + name format. Instead, the formal term for those in service to use is simply Belum. If part of a name, it is positioned after the name (such as Daniel Belum). Sir is acceptable for simpler or more intimate situations. There is no suggestion of any title of any sort being required unless you are a follower of Belum.
belet (beloved servant, right hand of Belum) - follows Belum in a power exchange relationship. This term is a title (such as belet dawn) and is also hierarchical; there would never be more than one belet within the domain of a Belum. It is an earned title, never granted lighty, and bears the responsibility of not only the servant of Belum but also a reflection of the relationship itself. No limitations; thus, service is administrative, sexual, and an active extension of Belum’s leadership, and anything else desired by Belum.
kame (beloved servant)- follows Belum in a power exchange relationship. This term is a title. kame is an earned title, never granted lightly, and bears the responsibility of not only the servant of Belum but also a reflection of the relationship itself. Service may include all aspects of service or only some.
kojon (servant)- follows Belum in a power exchange relationship. This term is a title (such as kojon grayson). kojon is a lighter responsibility - in service when present but a free agent in many life situations, but is still a reflection of the tribe.
factotum (servant,craftsman, jack of trades) - follows Belum in a power exchange relationship. This term is a title (such as factorum grayson). factorum will have more specific responsibilities for services such as repair work or maintenance work (these are sometimes described as "side work", "odd jobs" or "fix-up tasks"). The exchange with a factotum is more clear in specifics - in return for the service, the factotum has a specific return they expect from the Belum (such as power exchange education, support in a specific aspect of their life, or play).
Companion (non-hierarchical partner) - a space for those in our lives for those that are important to us but don’t have a specific or assigned role.