Why present? Why write? Why podcast? Why produce events? Why spend time running The Space?
It’s been a long time since I’ve asked myself these questions. It’s something we’ve been doing since around 2004. At least that’s as far back as my notes go. It might have been a little earlier than that when we presented for NLA-Columbus. They saw how we were living Power Exchange and wanted us to talk about it. I sat on a chair and Dan stood behind me, playing with my hair as he explained how we did what we did. Both of us so nervous. But, but the time we were done, the nervousness had fallen away. Dan had had training in community theater and I had been leaders of groups through high school. And most of all he was my rock. We could do this. And we did.
Then, we saw an event in southern Indiana advertise for presenters. It was an outdoor event. A sacred sexuality event. We had been studying and practicing sacred sex for a couple of years at that point. So we put in an application. Well, one of the producers was kinky and when he learned our background, he brought us in to teach ‘Sensual Spanking’ and ‘Poly, Pagan, Bondage, Slut’. And we ran a flogging station during their barn dance. We met so many like-minded people that weekend and so many people that loved what we had to teach. Which was basically sharing our experience.
That’s when the bug hit. We were addicted to presenting and sharing our experience in the various things we were into…..power exchange, polyamory, sacred sexuality, kink….and combining them.
At this point, after almost 2 decades, we’ve taught 100’s of classes at 100’s of events. From Ft. Lauderdale to Toronto to Idaho to Arizona. And we aren’t done. The last year and a half has been on zoom. Though, it’s not as much fun as it is in person, it is what it is.
In 2010 we ran for Master/slave title. Why? We felt we had something to offer. When we were starting, we didn’t have any role models. And though we don’t consider ourselves role models per se, we like to share that power exchange is a valid relationship style. When we lost the International contest, we decided we still had something to share and wrote “Living M/s”.
That was 11 years ago. More presenting, producing Power Exchange Summit as well as Beyond the Love. Polyamory books. The Podcast of 13 years where we talk about everything.
It’s all rewarding in it’s own way. It’s not like we make money at it. It barely covers our costs of flights and hotel rooms and recording equipment and travel expenses, and editors and hotel contracts and all the costs of running an event or The Space…..….and….and….and….
Sometimes we are exhausted and feel like walking away from it all. Then, someone writes us an email of how the podcast or a book or a presentation gave them hope, or saved their relationship or ……something…….and it recharges us.
We are finally writing our 2nd Power Exchange book.
Tonight we taught a zoom class on Power Exchange and will teach 2 more tomorrow morning.
Seems we still have more to share and we hope others are finding value in it.