Rolled for seduction, Now what?

So I had an interesting conversation with a work friend the past few days and It made me laugh because we both had similar interest but it seemed that we both just kinda assumed the other was vanilla. Now I don't hide that I'm into kink but I also don't go waving it around. Usually, people find out when a particular book comes into the conversation and I state I'm just not a fan because I think it does more harm than good for its depiction of BDSM. Usually followed by a story of how the one time I had a chance to see the movie, I was dealing with a very co-dependent dog who did not like change and was not a fan of having a dog sitter. But that's off-topic. And most people are chill when they find out. If not a little surprised. Part of it may be that I'm actually pretty quiet about a large part of my life. But it does always make me laugh when people are like yeah I'm kinky, and recommend some things that I was doing for years. And you know after that fact is established I usually learn some cool things. My buddy recommended some light bondage as a potential thing to try and when I mentioned we were a little past "light" bondage he laughed and sent me a link to a pretty cool set up of straps and cuffs he was looking at. And it's always funny because I have in the past suggested spicing things up with "light" bondage and found people way more experienced than me.  You just never know who around you is into the same weird thing you are and how everyone seems to tiptoe around it until you find out the other person is cool with it. And then it's like you have a new best friend.