Truth

The truth about me

164 commandments

4 months ago. July 13, 2024 at 5:14 PM

So I was chatting online to this guy who claimed to be a dominant. Within our first 2 (very brief) messaging conversations he:

- Provided me with his list of 164 commandments that I was to follow

- Showed me a photo of toys he had already purchased for me

- Set up our life plan for mixing vanilla and the kink lifestyle

- told me that I’m his 100% focus now

- Sent me an unsolicited 🍆 pic

- demanded that I provide him with my calendar and give him 100% access to him on certain days of the week

I’m grateful to the people I’ve met and experiences I’ve had to know that I immediately had to block him (after keeping documentation of all of this including the outside research I had done on who he was just in case I needed it in the future if he ever found me on another site). Totally creepy behavior.

Just a reminder to always do your homework and keep safe out there. Never give personal or private information until trust has been established and vetting has taken place.

I may not have found my person, but I absolutely 100% know who are not my people.

Sweetlydepraved(masochist female){I Guess } - 🥹 I have enough trouble with 2 rules!

4 months ago

PandaGirl(sub female) - I know, right 😂? I could never remember that many.

4 months ago

Blondie(sub female){Collared} - That sounds like a very intense person! 😳

4 months ago

PandaGirl(sub female) - Intense is one thing. But the way he communicated was disjointed and just odd. Use a lot of capital letters I guess trying to make his point. Demanding right from the start. Way tooo many 🚩 🚩🚩. Just super creepy.

4 months ago

SageFlame(sub female) - I'd have compassion for this unevolved Dom - gently send him on his way.

4 months ago

PandaGirl(sub female) - My concern is that he’s unevolved to the point of being dangerous to the uneducated submissive. We all know those types exist.

4 months ago

DelightfullyDominant(dom male) - Wow. 164 commandments..you should have given him just one -‘Thou shalt not be a dickhead’ haha

4 months ago

PandaGirl(sub female) - That’s a great response but I was so stunned I couldn’t even respond that quickly. 😂

4 months ago

TigerBDSM(dom male){looking} - The tragedy of online meetings (street creed, 25 years online in the bdsm space, BUT almost 5 decades of mostly live in slaves) is the default that he/her is someone who believes in the fantasy of the lifestyle or (good people, but VERY unrealistic about the real world applications of the lifestyle) those who talk PERFECT AND WONDERFUL THEORY which to the newbie is music to their ears.
But sometimes a new to the lifestyle dom believes based on all the bdsm videos he has seen that a subbie wants to be treated a certain way.
Though the default for any sane sub is...please move on...sometimes the dom is just new and if given a chance might become wonderful.
Yes, the odds are that they are a bozo (even on a great site like this), but give them a chance or two to show they might be sincere and just afraid to say they are new.
Ultimately the goal is a significant connection or ongoing "play", regardless of the connection, nothing can happen if the sincere dom is not given a chance to learn and grow.
Off soapbox now.
Be well everyone and enjoy as much of the lifestyle that you can fit into your life.

2 months ago

TigerBDSM(dom male){looking} - Addendum....ONLY 164..probably just book one, part one...lol

2 months ago

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Truth

164 commandments

PandaGirl(sub female)