To the lost soul who wants to be a sub
I may be able to put something back into your life. Like with a feeling of lost or lonely heart, or the feeling of letting go of all things in your mind, to let your emotions rest and stop you thinking, letting me take over that confusion, it's what a Dom's job is.
To put back what is missing
To find out what she needs
To build trust
To build a connection
To build foundations
To give meaning
To give her goals to reach
To give structure
I think substance is missing from a lot of women’s life and it's something I love, a woman with passion. You have to have it in BDSM not just not for the kink, it's got to be shown in the mental side for me, it's got be shown in her strength of what she is willing to do to better her life with what I have to offer her.
Can she allow an intensity of empowerment & control to feed her mind, bare her soul and eventually her desires to peace and calmness. Comfortingly, the rules are defined, she merely obeys.
In the tasks I set out, I meet a lot of women all keen on giving and doing it for a while, then the bubble bursts and it's all over before it starts.
For me, I ask all women do they truely know what it is to be a sub and the psychological involvement needed to be one. Are you willing to do your homework, are you willing to sit down and dive so deep into your life and tell me the most dark secrets over time. Are you willing to work on every aspect of your life, not just the things you want to look at.
As I keep telling women, it comes down to 20% play, 80% psychological.
And I have to know you are dedicated to what we will talk about and what I will set down as tasks, and rules and protocols.
If you are not willing to put the work in, how can I help to change your life. I can’t really help you and it’s a shame, as I can see so much potential in you, as I've dedicated my life to being a Dom/Master.
And the benefits have paid off for me, on who I am and what I have to offer the right subs in my teachings.
It’s like who you friend with in the world, they have to mean something to you.
And it's like BDSM, it's my life, I don’t play it or use it as a game or jump into it when I'm horny.
It’s made me strong in so many ways in all I do, it helps who I am and where I am in my life.
You all come here for a purpose to learn something new about yourselves.
You need structure and to shown your strength and who you are
It’s not just about you dropping to your knees and handing over your all to a Dom
It’s about learning so much about us as people and a Dom may have some of the answers you crave for.
He can make a difference for you in your life.
You don't have to know it all but you have be willing to give it a try
You are worthy of your own self, you don’t need people telling you.
But it’s not a Dom's job to
Use her to make himself look good
Not encourage her self-confidence
To bring her down
Tell her what’s wrong with her
Make her feel weak
Show her up
Only play with her (unless that’s all you are here for, is kink )
And if these things happen they are Red Flags 🚩 .,
We can work on your emotions, around what you feel is missing from your life.
I see a lot what is missing
Self acceptance in yourself
Self-confidence
Love
Connection
Passion
Structure
Understanding of yourself
Not letting go
Feeling trapped
Can’t stop thinking (turn the mind off )
Trust issues
Mental health
These are just some of the issues a good Dom will be looking at in your life and putting structures in place to help you over come or to help you deal with.
It’s so important you learn to open up to your Dom or finding someone you fully trust to give your connection to, as it's something that can’t be rushed into.
It’s a Dom's role to assess every bit of your life, from the moment you wake up to the moment to go to sleep and even the nightmares.
For me, it is so important for her well-being that I know all I can, to be there for her emotional state. To open my arms to her, to give her safety, make her feel loved and safe, make her feel like she can come to me at any point of time with her concerns, no matter how small or big they are.
Does she need to be weak sometimes - unshackled & vulnerable. Can she let me be the strong one, with nourishment and protection. ?
When her needs become a saturated, painful mess and she wants someone to just listen when she whispers or wants to cry out, can she let me be the balance of that need, help to suppress those feelings but still cherish and honour her mind ?
TASKS
What are these ? And why do I put them in my sub's life ?
For Stability, a big one for me, is Fitness.
It helps work on her self confidence, the little things like a power walk morning and night. It makes her feel like she is doing something for herself, so by putting that in, its showing I want her to love her body as much as I do.
I love to promote a good mind, body and soul and spirit
We need structure to show our strength.
It's so important to show her why you put tasks into her life and we must explain why they are good for her.
And to record in her journal for her emotional state. How she feels and what is going on inside her head each day, so she can bring this to her Dom and he can see for himself the support she needs.
And finally, she will long for my mastership, devotingly and respectfully, ready to serve and please attentively to my own needs and desires.
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