JOURNAL ENTRY · 2 MIN READ
What’s Missing
I here and talk to a lot of subs out in the Community and I ask what is misting
Why can’t there find a good Dom or find that deep connection
Lot of it comes down to men don’t have a clue on how to be Doms I get told or there just don’t get what it is all about
The lack of Respect Manners and knowing it’s not all about kink or sex
Let’s break it down to what a Dom should be
First of all it’s about giving and showing a sub what you have to offer her as a Dom
It’s not aboot telling her what to do in the first 5 mins of knowing her
She not yours she’s not under your control let’s make it clear you can’t tell a woman to get down on her knees after meeting her
Or tell her what you going to do to her
It’s like the old saying goes all talk and all bullshit
No women wants to know about what you going to make her do in the first 5 mins
She want to know about you who you are what you about just be open and friendly with women
It not a race to get them to submit to you slow down get to know her Personality
What is is like as a woman what her Interests
What got her into BDSM what does she want to get out of it
Look into her mind her thoughts 💭 on who she is find out about her as a women
What makes a good Dom is some one who is open book who Listens
And get to no a woman before you try and go all hard in and Scare her away
It ok to find out small things about a women but don’t just go after the sexual side of her it only saying you after one thing
We want our subs to feel Special we want them to know we think about them as a friend then as a lover and then as our subs
There so many wonderful women out there who want to be good girls for there Doms
But you fucking it up by not looking at who there are as people
Yes there are some hard women to crack and some who only hereto make money but ti find that good sub that sits great with you don’t rush it take you’re time it like making a cake you just don’t grab all the Gradients and Chuck in a oven
We must mx and Measure
And it like a women you must ask the right questions at the right time take your time read her profile read her writings it will tell you a lot about
Invest your time into her and you get all you want out of her in the end as long as you treat her right
It’s so important as Doms we do it right and give them what there need as for me I take a long time to collar a sub it not done over night it along Process
To me it like a wedding ring you just don’t pop it on a finger or a collar around a womens neck and it like when you first start talking to a women it along going process
It not done in 5 mins now she’s mine
Where the respect
Where is the Manners
Where is the Gentlemen
Where is showing you are Genuine
As must men with out These won’t get far wil there
And I say all women do your homework on your Doms vetting someone is so important
Building Trust
Building Loyalty
Built in Friendship
Building connection
Work on These
Then you will have a better way to have a D/s
It’s not about sexual side it about the whole Package
I always say work in this Order
Mental connection first Connection
Spiritual connection Second Connection
Get to her soul Third connection
Sexual fourth connection
Do it in that order you both can’t go wrong
Do non sexual things on dates find Interests you both like it ready like dating in the Vanilla world at first
I sure of men took more time women would trust more easy then the bullshit there get on there inbox’s or the shit there have to listen to so come on let’s have more Respect for each other