I began my BDSM journey several years ago. I didn't really understand the depth of a D/s dynamic. I didn't realize that there is a lot more to it than just kinky sex, A LOT. I did however know that the kinky sex was something I was looking for.
A few years ago I met someone that was involved in the lifestyle. We talked for a few weeks, nothing really came out of it other than him telling me of The Cage. After joining and engaging in a few conversations, my time on Cage was brief because my self confidence (or lack there of) was non-existent. The moment someone asked me for a picture I ran. The only good thing that came out of that experience was I did start to do my own research on what a Dominant is and what it means to be a submissive. Because of that I was better prepared for my next attempt to enter the world of BDSM.
My first day back on here I received a message correcting my profile. He would eventually end up becoming my first Dom. He had knowledge and experience regarding the lifestyle and that is what caused me to ask him to be my Dom. I understood the basics but I needed help with the nuances and protocol. He did help me come out of my shell. I became more confident. I learned so much when it came to my likes and dislikes. Even things about my own body, which I thought, having had it for over 41 years, I knew everything there is to know.
He also hurt me, lied to me, and cheated. My final lesson from him was that people in the community are no different than those out. There are good and there are bad. I was naïve and believed that he would hold himself at a higher standard simply because he was a/my Dom. He showed me what I didn't want in my next Dom. I thought I was in love with him but I loved being his sub, not him. I am certain that I was made to be a submissive, he gave me that too.
So now what? Well I am talking to another Dom. So far he has been great. We have some very exciting things planned for me in the near future. I will be sharing my adventures of being a sub and the trials and tribulations that come with it. Stay tuned, its bound to get entertaining to say the least.