Disturbed, demented, and deviant

MrGhost77​(dom male){Not lookin} - Oddly enough I found myself in a similar situation recently. A submissive friend and I decided to enjoy each other’s company. Well she broke a rule and decided to step back and in all honesty I was more disappointed in her then anything else. As she pleaded her case I said okay you said what you need and We know what you get out of it what do I get out of it?

It is a fair question to ask. No matter what side you are on.

Moonlighter​(dom male) - I think a lot comes down to trust, you wouldn't enter a TPE dynamic on the first date for example, to me it would be something that you would work towards over many years of a relationship (if that was what you both wanted, you might find you both change your mind and don't want to do it, you might start off as playmates and turn into soulmates who knows right).

Also on your note about contracts, contracts in BDSM are in no way legally binding. You (and I can't stress this enough) CANNOT own a person in the eyes of the law, the contract in BDSM is more of a symbolic agreement, it is where the both of you draw the lines of your dynamic and relationship. If you don't want to do anal? It goes in the contract, hate being blindfolded? In the contract with it, don't want to do toilet play? In the contract we sling it. it can give a firm foundation to the relationship and can provide a sense of security to both parties. I don't think its ever necessary but some people like the etiquette behind it.

... Also if one were in a TPE and wanted to discuss the terms of said BDSM contract both parties would have to be equal in the discussion, so I guess it also allows a sub a way of inputting into the dynamic without fear of reprimand from the Dom?

That was a lot of waffle sorry, I'd be interested to know if anyone on here has a current contract whether I'm close to the mark as the above is generally my opinion.

Heero​(dom male) - I think you're pretty on the money here.

Master Maneesh​(dom male) - For you....

Heero​(dom male) - Haha, yes, because I agree with almost everything he said. I'm assuming you don't? What are your thoughts?

sandrakanda​(sub female) - The Dominant becomes the source of everything for a submissive. In can be similar without TPE as well, just go for certain area. You mentioned sexual pleasure, if He says you're not allowed to cum, you will not. It might be a part of the training, reminder of His control or a tool for you to remember your place, just playful teasing or maybe He wants you to get to the edge of begging. Sometimes it means he will use you sexuality and you will get nothing in return except serving Him. And getting pleasure just from serving, obeying Him might need time and work, it's not something you should feel naturally. Having doubts is normal and sometimes when He says "you'll see, you will like it, you'll beg for it, etc " what He meant it will come with time 😉