Just a quick thought I want to share-
Ask any Dom if he sees discipline as an important trait in a sub/slave- he will quickly reply yes. Then ask if he expects her to innately have self-discipline- if he's smart he'll say no. She (if American or western in general) grew up in a society where young women are conditioned to think their good looks negate any need to eliminate her laziness, negativity, disrespect etc. A boyfriend in vanilla dating is required to tolerate her lack of discipline, or she leaves him (or worse becomes his dommy mommy by default when that wasn't what he wanted),end of story. So if we can admit that a new sub, no matter how bad she wants to submit, won't know how- then we know we have to TEACH HER from step 1.
Now teaching a girl discipline is one of the most fun things in the world to me- but it's not always easy. My wife has made SO much progress since we've been together, but looking back I see how much faster the progress could have been made. I was always good at teaching her verbally, and also physically with corporal punishment when needed, but one issue that kept surfacing was her getting distracted from her responsibilities as a Mom & as my sub- ESPECIALLY because of her phone. And then getting a negative attitude when she fell behind because of it.
It frustrated me because I had put in thousands of hours striving to be a good example as we live daily life together...and then throughout early 2024 I began to recognize a root issue. I was saying and doing good things to IMPROVE HER...but I wasn't doing enough to IMPROVE MYSELF. I was drinking too much, not enough to make me a bad Dom or Dad, but enough to where my spiritual discernment and focus weren't at the highest level they could be. Then a dream followed by insane synchronicities in real life the next day inspired me to ask God for help, and I apologized to her for not denying my body's own selfish cravings while helping her deny hers??
Long story short- I quit cold turkey, which any medical site will tell you would cause fatal seizures but here I am????that was 5 months ago, and you know how long my wife has been waaaay more in the moment & free from distraction? 5 months❤️she doesn't even touch the phone now without permission, and doesn't miss wasting time on it?her attitude while caring for the kids is improving too! So if any Doms on here need a reminder to kill your own demons and not just hers- here it is! Discipline is contagious- and I hope all you subs catch it like the flu.