I am a strong believer in this. Not everyone will be perfect but some things you just know you deserve better.
Example: I like older guys (30s, early 40s) because they supposedly have their life together. They are secure in their life and they have preceived confidence and experience that I can follow. When I tell you that the two 40 years olds that I talked to were flaky....
One lives in the same city as me, doesn't do anything at night and generally has the weekend mornings open but every time I suggest dinner or coffee the answer was oh we should do that. Over and over. He would never commit to a day or do anything spontaneously. I gave him 2 weeks and was decided my energy was better focused elsewhere.
A little while later another 40 year old messaged me saying we were going to the same event. I was excited as I didn't know the other people that were going. We chatted all day but when it came to the event he said his other friends bailed and he was thinking about not going. I told him we could still hang but he said if I couldn't guarantee that we would be able to play at the event he probably wouldn't go. I wasn't comfortable making guarantees for someone I hadn't met and just started talking to, so he didn't come. He kept trying to message me and I told him that I don't have time for non dependable people.
A week later a 25 year old messaged me and immediately said let's meet at this day and time, I'm excited to meet you after talking for a bit.
Examples that it doesn't matter their age. If they won't, someone else will. We don't settle in 2024.
