Gorean?

I registered on this site about 1.5 months ago.

So far I have come across many things, from some great people to some absolutely appalling people.  I would honestly say I have had the pleasure of meeting a few, even say I respect them and have actually continued conversations outside of the cage and speak to them almost daily, you know who you are. On the opposite end of the spectrum, I have come across some very... interesting people to... from demanding to know the names of friends I speak to, Loving the fact I am brutally honest yet when I am honest with them they accuse me of gaslighting... I hate that word... such a bullshit word people throw out when they are intellectually dumbfounded and use it as an escape from feeling and looking socially inept.  I've been ridiculed, I've been chastized because of my beliefs, my Philosophy, and that's ok!  I do not need your approval nor will I ever seek it.  You can just tuck that tail between your legs and go to the end of the line like a good boy/girl. Always remember... I don't judge you for wearing your diapers, playing with feces, drinking piss, whatever you are into I don't care... because honestly? Life is about doing what you enjoy and no one else should ever set your limits on that.  I've been told pushing boundaries is not respecting someones boundaries.  I feel this is debatable because I feel boundaries are put up for a reason to hide and/or protect themselves in some way therefore I believe in pushing those boundaries to inspire growth and to see the real person behind the layers that were built up.  I've been told My very existence in many cases is a red flag, and that's ok... I'm debating on purchasing a flag outfit and draping red flags all over it to embrace it... I digress.  Moving on I have come across subs that have been absolutely berated and bombarded by "doms" that feel they need to guilt trip and completely disregard the fact they are human beings at all... I don't even do that to my slaves whom I view as property...  I've come across conversations where "Doms" openly admit they flat-out cut all contact when there is an amicable breakup... I myself still speak to 6 of the 8 girls I have owned in 21 years and check in with them monthly to ensure they are doing ok, and yes randomly I will get calls at 2-3 am because one of them may be having a panic or anxiety attack, or are in the ER crying uncontrollably and have no one.  and yes I will take control and help them calm down.  I have sat on skype with someone before while they were at their Ultrasound because they had no one  I've come across many others that have a serious problem with the fact that I do help My previous girls when they need it...  I had a conversation with a submissive once and a completely harmless conversation and the following day, not 24 hours later I'm told by 4 people I have a new girl. and apparently, she was approached as well by someone saying the same thing.  I've had to stick up for others who blatantly list in their profile that they have different Mental issues that are beyond their control.  I've read multiple times where people have mentioned other people being "crazy" for whatever reason at all.  Just because someone has abandonment issues are scared for whatever reason, talks too fast, quick to anger, having their own flaws and faults does not make them crazy.  Treat others how you wish to be treated. plain and simple.  I've seen great inconsistencies from many around whether sub or Dom.  My advice to you... BE YOURSELF AND STOP ADAPTING TO SUIT YOUR NEEDS.  you are unique... be that way.  Stop lying.  I spoke to a "Gorean" on the website that supposedly owned a whole house of slaves... a harem... yet had no clue what the Philosophy was... had no clue the purpose of it.  didn't know half of the positions and Had no references to prove shit... to you sir... fuck you stop harassing people in messages because you think you can be Gorean. 

In closing...

I have learned quite a bit here and met some great people so far to be honest.  I've read some absolutely amazing writing and followed a few blogs due to it.  I've had some great discussions about Gorean positions, Protocols, and a plethora of questions from all angles.  I've had people that I absolutely adore due to their intelligent and deep conversations.  Sadly some of their ideals and values are far too different therefore do not speak with them anymore. However, I am still very glad to have met these people they are absolutely amazing great values and beliefs in themselves. 

I will update more later. 

Thank you.

Arthur.

As the sun sets to the west
it falls slowly beyond the crest
remind yourself you did your best
Life is a journey, not a quest
nor is it some extravagant contest
you may spend your days distressed
you could even be depressed
It is simply but a test
so I ask of you one request
Don't listen then I must behest
The time has come I must confess
for it is you that I am impressed
because in truth you are blessed
arrive at home your private nest
as you prepare for your nightly rest
you pull your covers and get undressed
crawl into bed attempting to destress
you close your eyes and let out a sigh
your mind wanders attempting to deny
close your eyes and remember the sky
the beautiful ball of gas up high
Finally, your mind begins to comply
inhale and exhale for sleep is nigh

I just want to say, today is over, tomorrow is a new day, new experiences, new hopes, and new dreams, no matter where you may struggle always remember. Life is limited there are no guarantees live it to the fullest don't count the pennies. If you did not hear it,

I am so proud that you made it another day Through the monotonous queue. I love you all and good luck to you.

I found this on an External Hard Drive.

• I will fuck up, more than once. On at least one of those occasions, you will suffer because of it.

• I will not always be good enough, or strong enough, or wise enough.

• I won't treat you as you deserve to be treated all the time. I will have bad days and that will affect how I am with you.

• I will give in to my emotions sometimes, and you will see me in a light that you may not want to as a result.

• Sometimes, the dynamic that we have worked so hard to create will be the last thing on Earth I want to think about.

• I will misread you, and misunderstand you.

• I won't always know what you are feeling, even if you tell me. My responses to that will be incorrect, and will make things worse.

• My life will get in the way of our relationship, and what we want from each other. I will not always handle this as well as I could.

• I will depend on you, and I will need you to guide me sometimes.

• I will ask you to make decisions when you want me to make them, because I am not able to do so at that time.

• I will not always give you as much attention as you need. And I won't realize that I have done this.

• I will lose my patience with you sometimes.

• I will not always be able to give you what you want, now or in the future.

• I will suffer from jealousy and insecurity. And you will suffer from my jealousy and insecurity in turn.

• I will not always deserve you, nor understand what you see in me.

• Just as you crave my attention, sometimes I will crave for you to leave me alone.

• I will not always communicate with you as well as I should. I will want to keep things to myself that I shouldn't, and some of the things I do share with you, I will do so in an unhelpful way.

• There will be times when I am happy when you aren't, and resent that you don't match my mood. There will be times when I am unhappy when you aren't, and resent that you don't match my mood.

• I will feel guilty about what you give me, and inadequate about what I give to you.

• I won't always like you, nor you always like me.

• We will argue and disagree, and we won't always handle this like adults.

• I will forget things, important things that matter to you, and will need to be reminded of them.

• I will struggle with my own rules.

• I will sometimes be unable to take control of myself, let alone another.

• I will sometimes resent the responsibility our relationship places on me.

But most importantly:

• I will accept that while neither of us want any of the above to happen, sooner or later it will. And while I will always be at my best when trying to be the perfect Dominant, I will get closest to that by accepting that I am not.

This is not my writing , but it's really awesome and thing I had to share it , also I heard and saw that the author was anonymous, if this is true, then so be it , if not I would love to pick the authors brain.

I am a submissive woman. I find pleasure, joy, and fulfillment from being slave/submissive to another in a loving relationship. I am not weak, or stupid. I am a strong woman, with firm views and a clear concept of what I want out of my life. I do not serve out of shame or weakness, but out of pride and strength.

I look to my loving Master/Dom for guidance and protection, for never am I more

His punishments are harsh, but I accept them thankfully, knowing that he has my bests interests always foremost in his mind. If he desires my body for pleasure, I shall joyfully give it to him, and take pleasure myself from knowing that I have brought him happiness. However, the pleasure of the flesh is but one facet of any relationship. The love, the trust and sharing, the words spoken and felt, those are all parts of this relationship.

My body is his, and if he says I am beautiful, then I am. No matter what I look like to others, I am beautiful in his eyes, and because of that I hold my head high...for who can tell me that my Master is wrong in seeing the beauty in me? If he says I am his princess, then I am that...regal and graceful, and if I see laughter at me in the eyes of others, I do not recognize it, for who are they to call my Master wrong? If he says I am his toy, his slut, his tramp, then I am that...as wanton and dirty as he wants me to be, and if others do not see this, then it is they who are blind, not my Master.

My mind is his, to expand, to explore, to know as only he can. I have no secrets from him...for secrets are a thing that would keep me from being more perfectly his. Secrets would put a wall up between my Master and myself...and I do not want walls. His lessons are not always ones I would seek on my own, but they are lessons he has decided I need, and so I learn from him.

My soul is his, as bare to his touch as ever my skin could be when I kneel naked at his feet. Never a moment goes by when I do not feel his presence, be he miles away or standing over me. If I were to ever displease him, his displeasure would be a blow to my soul, worse punishment than any lashes could be. The anguish of my soul that I feel when I disappoint him is harder to bear than the physical anguish I feel when his belt caresses me with fire.

I spend my days knowing that the energy and thought he puts into our relationship is as much for.

I am a slave/submissive woman. I am proud to call myself that. My submission is a gift that I do not give lightly, and can only be given to one who can appreciate that gift and return it tenfold. Only to he who has that strength will I give myself fully, because I am strong and proud. I am a slave/submissive woman.

Author Unknown

Found these while going through an old External Hard Drive.

30 Questions about submission
1) Does your submission – either what you practice or what you strive for – have a label?Do you view your submission as Taken in Hand, domestic discipline, top/bottom, dominant/submissive, master/slave, owner/pet, or some other description or combination? If you do not use a label, why?
2) Describe who you might submit to and how.Are you exclusively submissive in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you submissive only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are you submissive to play partners or only in the context of a relationship?
3) How do you know you are submissive or have the potential to be submissive? How do you feel when you express your submission?
4) Do you switch into a dominant role at any time?If you are in a domestic discipline relationship, are there things that you maintain control over? Are you a “switch” in BDSM terms? If not, have you ever thought about it or given thought to why it’s not for you?
5) Have you been or are you in a dominant/submissive dynamic relationship or is this new to you? Have you been in more than one D/s relationship? How were they the same? How were they different? What is unique about your relationships in your mind?
6) What do you feel are the roots of your submission? Do you think it has something to do with childhood? Is it a relationship management tool as in the practice of domestic discipline? Is it a sexual thrill or something else?
7) Do you accept and/or expect discipline or punishments as a part of your submission? How do you feel about it?
8) Is spanking or corporal punishment a part of your submission? Why or why not?
9) Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules and limits as a part of your submission?How do you feel about them?
10) Does any element of BDSM occur as a part of your submissive relationships? How do you feel about BDSM? Is it core to your submission, peripheral or non-existent (other than the submission part)?
11) Do you include service as a part of your expectations of your submission?How do you define service? What does it mean to you? If not, what is it about the concept of service that is not for you?
12) Do you include financial submission within the definition of your own submission and if yes, how does it manifest itself?If no, is there a particular reason why? Are you familiar with the concepts of financial submission? Do you have an opinion about financial submission in general?
13) Is sexual availability, being available to your partner any time he or she wants, part of your submission?Why or why not? Are there limits to this?
14) Does religion have any bearing on your decision to submit? If not, are you familiar with religious based submission and do you view it as similar to other types of submission or dissimilar?
15) Has your submission evolved over time? If so, how has it evolved for you and if not (or if you are just starting out) how might you see or imagine it evolving in the future?
16) Have you found your submission has changed with different partners/relationships?If you’re involved with partners of both sexes, does your submission relate or change based on gender or does it depend on the person?
17) What does trust mean to you in the context of submission?
18) How does communication factor into your submission and how do you communicate your desires and needs?Very often the stereotype of submission is that the submissive person loses the ability to have an opinion. While that clearly isn’t true except in the absolute rarest of occasions,
19) How socially connected is your submission?Do you look for others to talk to about your submission for support or networking? Do you go to events or connect through another sort of social grouping either in person or online?
20) Has your submission increased or decreased over time?Have you ever had to renegotiate your submission due to a change in your feelings or circumstance?
21) Is there a physical position that makes you feel most submissive?
22) Can you feel submissive without a dominant partner? If so, how does your submission express itself? If not, how do you handle your submission or submissive feelings?
23) Is there anything about submission (yours or what you see in others) that you question, dislike or repels you?Was there a time you questioned or were resistant to your own submissive feelings?
24) What are the emotions that most directly let you access submission?What feelings do they inspire?
25) Are there items, objects or rituals that represent or help you express submission? If not, have you ever thought of adding or being gifted one? Is there a special significance to these objects or rituals?
26) What are the qualities you seek in a dominant partner and why?Are some qualities deal-breakers as in “must” haves or “must not” have?
27) Do you have submissive desires or fantasies that you have yet to be able to explore? Do some of your desires confuse or frighten you? Do they excite you?
28) Has your submission ever let you down?Have you ever been criticized for your submission? Have you ever regretted being or feeling submissive in a moment or in a relationship? Have you ever looked back and realized you made a mistake and how did you handle your submission going forward from that.
29) Is pain or humiliation (spankings for example) a part of your submission?What is your relationship to it? Do you embrace it as a part of your submission, tolerate it as necessary or have some other type of relationship with it?
30) Is your need to submit being met? If not, or if your situation changed, do you think that you could continue in your life and still be happy/content if you were never able to express your submission in the way that feels best to you again? What makes submission special to you?

Found these while going through an old External hard Drive.

1) Does your Dominance – either what you practice or what you strive for – have a label? Do you view your preferred Dominant style as Taken in Hand, Domestic Discipline, Top/bottom, Dominant/submissive, Master/slave, Owner/pet, or some other description or combination? If you do not use a label, why?

2) Describe what you are looking for in a submissive and the techniques you might use to instil those characteristics in your submissive. Are you exclusively Dominant in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you Dominant only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are you Dominant to play partners or only in the context of a relationship?

3) How do you know you are Dominant or have the potential to be Dominant? How do you feel when you express your Dominance?

4) Do you switch into a submissive role at any time? Are you a “switch” in BDSM terms? If not, have you ever thought about it or given thought to why it’s not for you? If you are in a Domestic Discipline relationship, are there things that you do not maintain control over?

5) Have you been or are you in a Dominant/submissive dynamic relationship or is this new to you? Have you been in more than one D/s relationship? How were they the same? How were they different? What is unique about your relationships in your mind?

6) What do you feel are the roots of your Dominance? Do you think it has something to do with childhood, upbringing or parental example? Is it a relationship management tool as in the practice of domestic discipline? Is it a sexual thrill or something else?

7) Do you inflict discipline or punishment as part of your Dominance? Why or why not? How do you feel about discipline and punishment as tools used to invoke and maintain submission from your partner/s?

8) Is spanking or corporal punishment part of your Dominance? Why or why not? How do you feel about spanking and/or corporal punishment as tools used to invoke and maintain submission from your partner/s?

9) Do you set and enforce structure, rules and limits as part of your Dominance? Why or why not? How do you feel about the use of structure, rules and limits as tools used to invoke and maintain submission from your partner/s?

10) Do you utilise any elements of BDSM in your Dominant style? How do you feel about BDSM? Is it core to your Dominance, peripheral or non-existent?

11) Day Eleven – Do you expect servitude from your submissive/s? How do you define servitude and service? What does it mean to you? If you do not seek or expect servitude from your submissive/s, what is it about the concept of servitude that is not for you?

12) Do you expect financial submission from submissive partner/s? If yes, how does it manifest itself? If no, is there a particular reason why? Are you familiar with the concept of financial submission? Do you have an opinion about financial submission in general?

13) Is sexual availability, having your submissive partner/s sexually available to you at any time and in any manner you choose, part of your expectations as a Dominant? Why or why not? Are there acceptable limits to this? If so, what are they?

14) Does religion have any bearing on your Dominance or the way you expect your partner/s to submit? If not, are you familiar with religious based submission and do you view it as similar to other types of submission or dissimilar?

15) Has your Dominance evolved over time? If so, how has it evolved for you? What do you attribute this evolution (or lack of) to?

16) Have you found that your Dominance has changed with different partners or relationships? If you’re involved with, or have been involved with, partners of both sexes, has your Dominance changed based on gender or do you feel that it is dependent on the submissive as an individual?

17) What does trust mean to you in the context of Dominance? How do you inspire trust in your submissive?

18) There is a common misconception that the submissive partner in a D/s relationship loses the ability to have and express an opinion. How does communication factor into your Dominance and what expectations do you have in terms of your submissive expressing their desires and needs? Is it limited in time, place or manner?

19) How socially connected are you as a Dominant? Do you look for others to talk to about your Dominance either for support, learning, educating or networking? Do you go to events or connect through another sort of social grouping either in person or online?

20) Has your Dominance increased or decreased over time? Have you ever had to renegotiate with your submissive due to a change in feelings or circumstances? Have your interests as a Dominant expanded or contracted over time?

21) Is there a physical position that makes you feel most Dominant? Is there a physical position you prefer your submissive to take in order to express their submission?

22) Can you feel Dominant without a submissive partner? If so, how does your Dominance express itself? If not, how do you handle your need to be Dominant?

23) Is there anything about Dominance, either your own or what you see in others, which you question, dislike or are repelled by? Was there a time you questioned or were resistant to your own Dominant needs and desires?

24) What are the emotions that most directly let you access your Dominance? What feelings do they inspire?

25) Are there items, objects or rituals that represent or help you express your Dominance? If not, have you ever thought of adding or being gifted one? Is there a special significance to these objects or rituals?

26) What are the qualities that you seek in a submissive partner? Are there qualities which you consider ‘must haves’ or ‘must not haves’? If so, what are they and for what reasons are they ‘must haves’ or ‘must not haves’?

27) Do you have Dominant desires or fantasies that you have yet to explore? Do some of your desires confuse or frighten you? Do they excite you?

28) Has your Dominance ever failed you? Have you ever been criticised or received negative feedback for your Dominance? Have you ever regretted your actions or emotions as a Dominant either in a moment or in a relationship? Have you ever looked back and realised you made a mistake and, if so, what lessons did you learn and how did you apply them?

29) Is pain or humiliation part of your Dominant expression? What is your relationship to pain and humiliation? Do you embrace it as part of your Dominance, inflict it reluctantly or have some other type of relationship with it?

30) Is your need to be Dominant being met? If not, or if your situation changed, do you think that you could continue in your life and be happy and content without being able to express your Dominance in the way that feels best to you? What makes being a Dominant special to you?

I will be compiling a list of questions that are sent to me, they will be anonymous.  Any and all questions are welcome but if they are good questions they can be posted here for others to learn and increase their knowledge. 

1) Do Gorean Doms not reveal the lessons they are teaching, but rather allow the sub to discover and reflect, learn through behavior, to discuss them with Him.

1). Lets start this off with a quote I wrote 20 some years ago. A Dom teaches they show you the way, A Master inspires you to find the way. by ATDJ
a Dom will show you what book, what page, and the paragraph. a Gorean makes you WANT to find the page, we may give you the book, but its up to you to find the path, the page, the paragraph.

2) Does a Gorean Doms love upon agreement of the dynamic or the same as any dynamic and through time?

2) For many years I would not allow myself to love my slaves because I thought it was a sign of weakness.... its true it can be used for manipulation, therefore I wouldn't allow it. However, over the years, the connection involved once you allow yourself to love is much deeper on the deepest level of a connection possible. Do they all love? No. However, it does exist.

3) What would the difference be between a Gorean slave and a BDSM (for lack of better terminology) slave be?

BDSM: from my understanding submission is a gift it can be taken at any moment.  
Gorean:  exquisite beauty and absolute obedience.  or punishment.  (However, also note that if you are being abused beyond a point that is acceptable.  for me thats scarring, maiming, etc. it needs to be discussed with your Master, and/or beg for release.  if they do not discuss it. you need to leave and/or get somewhere safe.  typically this is a bad situation to be in )

4) What is the best way to learn about being Gorean?

The best way is to read the books, there are many instances within the books that explain the belief system and Philosophy as a whole.  That is what it is to be Gorean... not sex slaves, not abusing slaves.  Philosophy is what matters... everything else is just... details. 

Bonus Question from a kajira, who has been involved with Gorean lifestyle raised in a Gorean community as well as BDSM Lifestyle much later.

What is it about being Gorean that you find most appealing?

The Gorean Master is more protective over their slave/slaves

What is the most rewarding part of being yourself... a kajira.

Knowing the fact that I can please in ways that others can't

What is the purpose of the collar?

Owner ship, safety, peace, the deep connection the Master an kajira have she should be proud to wear it anywhere and not be shy about it

And a reply from a kajira I have known for 20 years, she offered for me to share this.

"What does my collar mean to me?    It means making people happy, it means usefulness, completion, surrender, joy, love, and control when I start to spin out of control due to the chaos in one's head.  It's direction, protection, absolution, forgiveness, its discipline when needed; It's a helping hand when one stumbles. It's stability when this one's world crumbles and she can't see past the panic enough to put the pieces back together again. It's a reason to be alive. It's all-encompassing and sometimes exhausting, but its reassuring.  It's being the center of someone's world and them being the center of yours. It's moving within a counterbalance to each other.  For life without balance is nothing more than Chaos.  He leads and this one follows along providing comfort to his turmoil, Warmth to his worn and achy soul. And He in turn provides strength to her weaknesses, Protection to her when she is in danger. A firm hand to lift her when she thinks she can't possibly go on much longer or take another step. It is a partnership, a give or take.  It is sustenance and nourishment. When she hungers for his touch he provides that."

More to come in time. 

When life trips you up unexpectedly always remember there is beauty sometimes hidden if you look hard enough it will make itself known.  Take a moment and relish it as everything else melts away. 

Beliefs and Characteristics/Traits

1. Accountability - Accept your actions or inactions in any scenario.
4. Be Who you are - Do not be afraid to be who you truly are within.
5. Community - Family and Friends trump all.
6. Do what you will - Want something? Take it.
7. Home - This is your Solace protect it well.
8. Honor - Mental strength to do what's right.
9. Integrity - Honesty and strong Morals.
10. Loyalty - Be loyal to those that are loyal to you
11. Love of Nature - self-explanatory.
12. Natural Order - Men Lead, Women follow
13. Vigor - Capacity for growth and survival.

1. Honesty
2. Adaptability
3. Tenaciousness
4. Courage
5. Pragmatic
6. Altruistic

“Gor vs. BDSM has been a topic of heated debate for a long time now. Neither is better then the other, they are just different, each with their own set of beliefs and standards. BDSM is an alternative relationship in which the Dom controls the actions of the submissive, though the submissive retains a certain amount of control. Gorean slaves maintain no such control. All power is handed over to the Master. (While it is understood that there are female Mistress's and Dominant's this is being written from a Master/slave context to make things simpler.) In the book Different Loving , Gloria G. Brame states "submission is a turning away from the social and a penetration into a sacrosanct internal space." Because the submissive is making a conscious choice to submit to a Dominant, their relationship is often called a power exchange. A Dom is the protector, teacher, and lover to the sub. The Dom and submissive are dependent upon each other to satisfy their own needs. Trust and communication are two of the most important things that both a BDSM and a Gorean relationship share. Gor, on the other hand, takes things a step further. The Master controls not only the actions of his slave, but her very life as well. The Master also takes full responsibility for his slave’s actions. The Gorean Master considers his slave his most valued possessions. When a Gorean Master takes a slave into his collar, he becomes her life. He not only cares for her physical needs, but her emotional, and spiritual needs as well. The Master knows he must nurture, provide day-to-day care and maintenance, and constantly watch and monitor his slave so they might know the mind of their property. He also tends to be more protective of her as she is completely dependent upon him. The Gorean Master owns the whole slave. The slaves heart, mind, body and soul belong to the Master, as his will is now hers. He controls all of her. Her very thoughts belong to him, by this Gorean method. In some BDSM Master/slave relationships a contract is put in place that indicates a specific duration of time of service and sets the boundaries of each participant's role. While this is a common practice in the BDSM sector, it is not so within the Gorean lifestyle. There are Master/slave contracts written up specifically with the Gorean Master in mind that sets the ground rules of a girls slavery and may list the assets she transfers to her Masters safe-keeping as a Gorean slave does not own anything. “'

Masters
“Being a Gorean Master is far more complex than simply finding your pleasure in a slave. A Gorean Master is in control, guiding and caring for the slave 24/7 as she is in your control at all times. In a BDSM relationship, the control, for the most part, is not as strict and the submissive does not give her very life to the Master. It is not the simple issuing of orders and watching them as they are carried out. Anyone can snap an order for coffee and eggs. It means knowing the slave, and knowing when to push so that the slave either moves to a new place in her slavery or learns something new about who she is. It also means knowing when to stand back and give the slave time to examine the lessons that you have taught. It is a deep bond for the slave gives her life to the Master out of trust. In accepting this slave, the Master has taken on the awesome responsibility to nurture her and help her to grow, not only as a slave, but as a person as well. In Tribesman of Gor it states that "it is not uncommon for Masters to pride themselves on the depth with which they know their slave girls; this depth is far greater in my opinion than that with which the average husband knows his wife; the slave girl is not simply someone with whom the man lives; she is very special to him; she is a treasured possession; he owns her; he wants to know profoundly and deeply, the background, history, the mind, the intelligence, the appetites, the nature and dispositions of his lovely article of property; this knowledge, of course, puts her more at his mercy; by making it possible for him to manipulate her feelings, exploit weaknesses, drop asides, etc., she in the helpless condition of slavery, it gives him greater power over her".

Slaves:

Submissives within the Gorean subculture will take on the title of slave or kajira (or kajirus in the case of a male slave), viewing their ability to serve their Master as a privilege. In Gorean approaches to BDSM, a slave is seen much as the kajirae in the books - they’re expected to serve without complaint or resistance and with utter perfection. On the planet Gor, kajirae are also dehumanized as property. Whilst that property is cared for, it is only as one might take care of their car or their home. Gorean Masters tend to use consistent, strict (aka ‘high’) protocols and rules that are based on rewards and punishments. Depending on their approach, these Masters can vary on the spectrum of strictness, but their ultimate goal is to consensually own their partner’s body and spirit. For those drawn to these partnerships, such dynamics can be deeply fulfilling and meaningful.

These articles above I posted are the raw "truths" about a Gorean Master/slave relationship as it was portrayed in the books (that many follow today)

My personal views at a glance.  Will refine them further at a later date. Special thanks to SirsBabyDoll for pleasant conversation that prompted this. 

Anyways, being Gorean to Me. is simply following the Philosophy and/or beliefs. Many that decide to follow them do decide to move into the Master/slave dynamic as I do. My Dynamic is more about Mental bondage than anything to do with physical. the emotions involved with a girl who gives herself to you completely mind body and soul are what I find the most satisfying. This allows me to help mold them into a better version of themself. insecurities? We slowly work towards them moving past those insecurities and help put them to rest. for example, I have for years used a "Mirror exercise" where they try and pick out at least 1 thing they like about themselves, day one they usually just burst into tears... but eventually, they will be able to pick numerous things. Afraid of water? Eventually, work the girl towards being able to hold my hands and follow me into the water slowly over time. maybe only an inch a day. but Progress is progress.

After learning within a Gorean community, and living with them in person I have become solidified in my ideals. I believe if you submit yourself you are giving your whole self to another person. I do not believe in submitting and out of spite deciding oh, I don't submit anymore I will study BDSM yes. but I will retain my own beliefs and Ideals.

I am a single father with twins and a daughter and of course, the fact "slavery" is Illegal. "Tools" If there is something I"m not well versed in I will take the time to research and learn it if it is something that my property may have a need for. as of right now I incorporate such things as impact when needed, bruising as it has been proven that it can be effective in dealing with anxiety and depression, Otherwise I don't much bother with many other things.

I live it because it's integral to who I am. The Majority of what I do I didn't know was an actual thing until after having done it for years, Choking (breath control) Orgasm Control, and training to cum on command.