I will be compiling a list of questions that are sent to me, they will be anonymous. Any and all questions are welcome but if they are good questions they can be posted here for others to learn and increase their knowledge.
1) Do Gorean Doms not reveal the lessons they are teaching, but rather allow the sub to discover and reflect, learn through behavior, to discuss them with Him.
1). Lets start this off with a quote I wrote 20 some years ago. A Dom teaches they show you the way, A Master inspires you to find the way. by ATDJ
a Dom will show you what book, what page, and the paragraph. a Gorean makes you WANT to find the page, we may give you the book, but its up to you to find the path, the page, the paragraph.
2) Does a Gorean Doms love upon agreement of the dynamic or the same as any dynamic and through time?
2) For many years I would not allow myself to love my slaves because I thought it was a sign of weakness.... its true it can be used for manipulation, therefore I wouldn't allow it. However, over the years, the connection involved once you allow yourself to love is much deeper on the deepest level of a connection possible. Do they all love? No. However, it does exist.
3) What would the difference be between a Gorean slave and a BDSM (for lack of better terminology) slave be?
BDSM: from my understanding submission is a gift it can be taken at any moment.
Gorean: exquisite beauty and absolute obedience. or punishment. (However, also note that if you are being abused beyond a point that is acceptable. for me thats scarring, maiming, etc. it needs to be discussed with your Master, and/or beg for release. if they do not discuss it. you need to leave and/or get somewhere safe. typically this is a bad situation to be in )
4) What is the best way to learn about being Gorean?
The best way is to read the books, there are many instances within the books that explain the belief system and Philosophy as a whole. That is what it is to be Gorean... not sex slaves, not abusing slaves. Philosophy is what matters... everything else is just... details.
Bonus Question from a kajira, who has been involved with Gorean lifestyle raised in a Gorean community as well as BDSM Lifestyle much later.
What is it about being Gorean that you find most appealing?
The Gorean Master is more protective over their slave/slaves
What is the most rewarding part of being yourself... a kajira.
Knowing the fact that I can please in ways that others can't
What is the purpose of the collar?
Owner ship, safety, peace, the deep connection the Master an kajira have she should be proud to wear it anywhere and not be shy about it
And a reply from a kajira I have known for 20 years, she offered for me to share this.
"What does my collar mean to me? It means making people happy, it means usefulness, completion, surrender, joy, love, and control when I start to spin out of control due to the chaos in one's head. It's direction, protection, absolution, forgiveness, its discipline when needed; It's a helping hand when one stumbles. It's stability when this one's world crumbles and she can't see past the panic enough to put the pieces back together again. It's a reason to be alive. It's all-encompassing and sometimes exhausting, but its reassuring. It's being the center of someone's world and them being the center of yours. It's moving within a counterbalance to each other. For life without balance is nothing more than Chaos. He leads and this one follows along providing comfort to his turmoil, Warmth to his worn and achy soul. And He in turn provides strength to her weaknesses, Protection to her when she is in danger. A firm hand to lift her when she thinks she can't possibly go on much longer or take another step. It is a partnership, a give or take. It is sustenance and nourishment. When she hungers for his touch he provides that."
More to come in time.
