How often do I read a profile which says she (I generally only look at female profiles) wants or requires a LOCAL in person Dom. So I go to check where she is located.....ah, "United States" ?? Wonder how many more responses would come from at least pinning down local to a single state?
Then there is the infrequent occasion when it seems there might be a spark hiding there, so I request only a real first name or nickname after a couple of messages, since I do not do well anonymously chatting. "I value my privacy, so no first name! If you contact me again you'll be blocked!" Really?? Is being one of at least hundreds of Debbys from Nebraska really going to blow her cover? And how many potential great Doms does she blow off protecting that anonymity, anyway?
On the Dom side, we are often guilty of just using that one word label -- Dom-- but think about it. A potential sub may want anything from a sadist to the mildest kind of DaddyDom. Since we generally know which sort of Dom we are, and what sort of subbie we hope to find, why not make sure our profile shows that aspect of us? Yeah, might get a few less inquiries, but those we get might be better-focused prospects.
What else? Well, if your profile on either side of the slash is more than, say, a year old and is still not filled out with either text or pix, that pretty clearly shows you don't care enough to want any responses, or you are clueless.
No, The Cage is not a "dating site", but still -- a lot of profiles, especially from newbies, are hoping to connect. They might do better with some attention to basic details...And No, my own is not that perfect, either.
Hope there is some food for thought here....
Rick
