Defining my role as a dominant

This is my written process of defining what being a dom means to me. All constructive feedback is welcome.

An attempt at subspace

1 year ago. June 6, 2023 at 3:17 AM

The other night, my wife and I tried for her to reach subspace. I had read that we should not expect success on our first attempt, and lack of success definitely describes the attempt. Oh well.

However, I did manage to tickle her a few times, and when we ended, she had a very red ass. The next day, the bruises on her butt were very noticeable to me, so I took a picture of them for her to see. (She said that now that she knows what they look like, she feels them more.)

Fortunately, she said that she would be willing to try again - after it heals. :-)

Six Foot Four - In my own practice entry into space came about as a happy side effect of our activities, not as the focus of them. You know how sometimes you set a goal and strive for it and are focused on it and it is proving hard to attain, and then one day when you're doing something else and not focused on said goal it just happens completely unexpectedly? I've found s/d/l/m space to be a bit like that.

At first it can be a bit uncertain & tense, like anything else that's new to you. As you grow in your dominance and she surrenders in small ways, hopefully you'll find that it becomes more 'normal' to you both. As it becomes normalized and you both start to relax, you'll likely find it happening more and more. If your goal specifically is to get her into subspace, make sure she's as relaxed and comfortable as she can be prior to the attempt. A bath can be a great way to get her ready, especially if you go all out with the candles and the soaps and whatnot.

Happy exploration!

1 year ago

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GregW​(dom male)

Defining my role as a dominant

An attempt at subspace

GregW(dom male)