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Defining my role as a dominant

This is my written process of defining what being a dom means to me. All constructive feedback is welcome.
1 year ago. July 23, 2023 at 1:51 PM

I've been thinking about the dynamics of having a "slave" 24/7/365.  The ideal is that the "slave" signs a contract agreeing to certain considerations and loss of rights.  And this assumes that the "slave" can at any time, say "I'm done with this" and walk away.  [However, one Mistress (Ingrid Bellemare) took compromising photos of the "slave" at the beginning (with permission of the "slave") and keeps them with the threat of releasing them should the "slave" decide to quit the contract mid-term.]

However, if the "slave" acts in the agreed upon position long enough, doesn't he/she/it become institutionalized.  At which point, the "slave" becomes a slave, and there is no more free will.  Some evidence are cases of Stockholm Syndrome, Lee Boyd Malvo, countless women who stay with their abusive husbands, ....  

I have seen a few references in the literature to having an agreed upon (weekly) time in which the submissive is an equal and can speak freely, but this does not seem to be mentioned enough.  Even so, the risk of turning the contracted "slave" into an actual slave would still be present.

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - In Maryland, it's against the law to do "revenge porn" against someone. It's a misdemeanor if I recall...a jailable and/or a fineable offense.
1 year ago
GregW​(dom male) - It's illegal in all states (although SC and MA do not have specific laws targeting revenge porn) [https://www.findlaw.com/criminal/criminal-charges/revenge-porn-laws-by-state.html]. However, Ingrid Bellemare lives in Holland, but it is now illegal (as of Jan 2020) to release such pictures [https://www.amsadvocaten.com/practice-areas/media-law/revenge-porn/].

But from an academic point of view, if the submissive agreed in writing that the Master can release those pictures, then does She have the legal right to release them? I would think not, since a slave contract is not enforceable. However, the Vanessa Williams pictures were released in the mid-80s [https://www.cbsnews.com/news/vanessa-williams-penthouse-photos-magazines-most-infamous-spread/] because she had signed a waiver - although, I don't know it would be allowed today.
1 year ago
SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - I would say that the difference lays in the fact that there is a difference between a legal, legitimate business contract and a personal sexual contract between adults in a relationship.
1 year ago
I'mME - YOUR post starts out speaking on a M/s 24/7 dynamic. You seem to think that a slave signs their rights away. They are actually exchanging powers with their Master, hence the phrase, power exchange.
They don't stop being a human being and one should have taken a long, long, time in getting to know each other before committing to D/s or M/s.
Its not a i met my new Daddy last week!! What is that? I dint know, to each their own, but 98% of the time, they are crying in the next few weeks about not understanding why they been ghosted. Which reallr means they did not listen to thT voice, no research, and let a mofo use them, listened to their lies.
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So a slave isn't giving their rights, unless by rights, you meant making decisions. Let me caution you even with that, its their choice what the Power Exchange looks like. One if my fav bloggers, is in a M/s dynamic. He doesn't every decision, but when he tells or ask her to do something, she obeys.
I noticed that you started using Master and submissive, but it may be an oversight.
1 year ago
GregW​(dom male) - I recognize that the slave is a human being. My concern was the possibility of the slave thinking of himself/herself/... as a lesser human being - or an "it". [I am also assuming that negotiations between parties were all above board and clear - both parties entered into the agreement fully aware as possible and consenting. And I was thinking about the 24/7 TPE.] Even if the agreement starts with both parties satisfying a kink, do you not accept that if someone acts the slave 24/7 for long enough, the person might change his thinking into believing he really has no free will?

In reference to the slave giving away his rights, when I wrote "signs a contract agreeing to certain considerations and loss of rights", I meant that the slave "signs a contract agreeing to certain considerations and 'certain' loss of rights." I was not picturing that the slave has no rights whatsoever, even if it is worded that way in the contract.

Also, I use "submissive" in the last paragraph, because the only places I have read where there is mention of pulling away from the roles and talking as equals has ben in D/s relationships. I just have not run across this type of check-in in the M/s relationships.
1 year ago
I'mME - Im sorry, my finger slipped. Anything is possible in life, Grew W. I believe that 2 people who feel as though they are suited for each other should do what makes them happy. And to hell with what others think.
1 year ago

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