We are all joined by our passion of BDSM and it’s contribution to our best selves. Learning to Love Yourself along with the Right Dominant is a dream for most.
As a submissive, it can be easy to lose yourself in the desire to please your dominant. However, it's essential to remember that your relationship with your dominant should be a partnership that enhances your life and helps you grow as a person. This includes learning to love yourself and fostering a healthy relationship with your own self-worth.
Prioritize Your Needs and Boundaries
One of the most important things you can do for yourself in any relationship is to prioritize your needs and boundaries. (This means taking the time to figure out what you want and what you are not willing to tolerate, and then communicating those needs and boundaries to your dominant)
A good dominant will respect your boundaries and work with you to create a dynamic that meets both of your needs. Remember that you have the right to say no to anything that makes you uncomfortable, and that your submission is a gift that should be given willingly, not taken by force.
Celebrate Your Strengths (Very Important)
Submissives often focus on their weaknesses, but it's essential to celebrate your strengths as well. Take some time to think about what you bring to the table in your relationship with your dominant. Are you a good listener? Are you intuitive and empathetic? Do you have a creative streak that enhances the dynamic?
Whatever your strengths may be, embrace them and use them to your advantage. Your dominant will be with you for a reason, and part of that reason is undoubtedly the unique qualities and talents you possess.
Learn from Your Mistakes
Nobody is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes from time to time. However, it's essential to learn from your mistakes and use them as an opportunity for growth. When you make a mistake, take ownership of it and work with your dominant to figure out how to avoid similar mistakes in the future.
Remember that your dominant is not there to punish you or make you feel bad about yourself. Instead, they are there to guide and support you as you grow and learn. Embrace this process and use it as an opportunity to become a better, more self-aware person.
Practice Self-Care
Taking care of yourself is crucial for your mental and physical health, and it's something that should be a priority in your life, regardless of your relationship dynamic. Make time for activities that make you feel good, whether it's taking a bubble bath, going for a walk in nature, or curling up with a good book.
Your dominant should encourage you to practice self-care and prioritize your well-being. Remember that taking care of yourself is not selfish; it's necessary for you to be the best submissive you can be.
Embrace Your Unique Identity
Finally, it's so important to remember that your submission is only one aspect of your identity. You are a complex, multifaceted person with many different interests, hobbies, and passions.
Embrace your unique identity and share your interests and passions with your dominant. Your dynamic should be a reflection of who you are as a person, not just as a submissive. Remember that a good dominant will appreciate and support all aspects of your identity, not just the parts that fit neatly into the BDSM dynamic.
Love yourself. Print this & put on your wall:) don’t forget! It’s important.