It’s common for people to have strong opinions about what they believe is the "right" way to do things. Unfortunately, these opinions are often shared in a way that is critical of others and fails to take into account the individual circumstances and dynamics of each relationship.
When we spend too much time focusing on what others are doing, we lose sight of our own needs and desires. Instead of worrying about how other people are living their lives, we should be focusing on ourselves and what we need to do to be happy and fulfilled.
At the same time, it's important to recognize that when we criticize or judge others, it says more about us than it does about them. When we assume that someone is doing something wrong or that their relationship is unhealthy, we are projecting our own insecurities and issues onto them. We may be trying to compensate for our own feelings of inadequacy or fear of judgment by criticizing others.
In order to truly grow and thrive we need to turn our focus inward and take a look at our own needs and desires. Instead of worrying about what others are doing, we should be working on building strong, healthy relationships with our partners that are based on mutual respect, trust, and communication. We should be exploring our own desires and needs and finding ways to express them in a safe and consensual way. Remember that each individual's journey in this lifestyle is unique, and what works for one person may not work for another. Rather than criticizing or judging others for their choices, we should be focused on building a community that is supportive, understanding, and accepting of all individuals and their individual needs and desires. When we focus inward and work on building ourselves up, we can create a stronger and more fulfilling lifestyle for everyone involved.