2 years ago. January 11, 2023 at 11:54 AM
Memory of long, long ago: being asked by a much more experienced and rather voracious woman whether I was top or bottom. And I said: top!
It was a lie of course. I'm a total sub. But back then, having a conversation with a woman in a bar in Manhattan, I felt I had to say I was top, that it would be "unmanly" to admit to being what I truly am. If I did that I was making myself vulnerable, laughable...
How vulnerable and unsafe I felt! And I bet she could just sense it was a lie. I believe women always can tell