CtAndy's Random Thoughts and Writings

Jack in the box -
Gonna have to agree with you on that one

SageFlame​(sub female) - I like this question.

Perhaps weird is the transition from one norm to a new and different norm? Not too many decades ago it was normal and expected for a woman to marry before the age of 18 to a man much her senior. A coming out party at age 15 or 16 was sometimes a signal for ready-to-marry-now. This was part of European culture, I am not sure about others. Today a girl/woman marrying in her teens is not only frowned upon but its written into law as illegal without parental consent. I'd say the temperature is warming toward May/December partnerships but most would have a negative response even now in 2024.

I'm familiar with polarized opinions today on marrying outside one's religious beliefs. One of my friends was disowned by her family for not marrying within hers. The current rub of modern thinking in the small town I currently live in is that of acceptance for individuation. This includes choices that are not agreed upon.

What is interesting is sitting in a restaurant booth next to that of a group my senior eaves dropping into their mindset. Sociology is fascinating perhaps because we are odd creatures living on a spinning ball in outer space!

What is that saying? . . . "The more things change the more they stay the same."

Jack in the box -
Well, thats what I meant 😏
Lol
I like how you word things Ms Sage,
We change. 'evolve' is debatable - but yes, change is 'normal'

TranquilStorm - Well there are fairly good reasons for both your examples. Ideally the cultural rules adapt so that things become smoother for the majority or weakest members of society. Admittedly that is bad news for groomers, those that do not care for the genetical disadvantage of their offsprings or those that thrive with a rigorous religious framework with black and white mentality. People and the world are weird, but those are not two examples i would personally pick for an argument.

SageFlame​(sub female) - Referencing back to the poster's address of unacceptable vs acceptable --I am at a loss to find a good reason for not accepting/respecting others simply because they make choices that make us uncomfortable. Reasons, yes, but not good ones. Am I missing something? It's possible, I haven't had coffee yet!

TranquilStorm - Maybe i am missing the point, but it is less about my personal comfort and more about good reasons that i think some practices have fizzled out (at least the two mentioned). Case in point was the possible defects of inbreeding or the potential for grooming for the first example. I could care less about preferences but I am an advocate that children should have a good chance and free choice in life. If those "new" rules/social norms help, then i am for it - even if it might inconvenience some people.

If those two reasons alone are not good enough then i guess we are at an impasse with our respective moral compasses.