And potentially an unpopular opinion.
So let me preface this writing with a short disclaimer. The intention of this writing is not to single out, offend, or shame anyone. It is just an observation from a guy that's been around for a while.
The traditional submissive. A submissive woman that chooses to be submissive because she believes in what would be considered the traditional 1950s type family dynamic or something akin to it. She believes that her relationship is best suited when it is led by her dominant partner, both in domestic and sexual practices.
The bedroom only submissive. This variety of submissive woman has no interest in being submissive in any other aspect than just in the bedroom. Their kinks in the bedroom can vary widely and range from one end of the kink spectrum to the most taboo on the other. But as soon as you walk out of that bedroom door, it's done, it's over, and things are back to business as usual.
The casual submissive. This woman is generally submissive both sexually and domestically but not to an extreme. To any outside party looking in, that didnt know any better, they would appear completely normal, just perhaps with a few more kinks and toys hidden in the nightstand next to the bed.
The extremist submissive. These are the devout submissives or slaves that full fledge give themselves to another person withholding nothing. They turn themselves over entirely to a Dom that they have determined is trustworthy and capable and submit to him completely. From that point forward all choices are his choice.
The self proclaimed bratty submissive. These women aren't actual brats, and often arent actually submissive. They are just really bitchy and want an excuse to act like a bitch and not have many consequences for it except rough hard sex. Most of them think that in reality they are superior to most people and most other people are stupid, when in reality most people are just tired of dealing with their bullshit.
The fad/popularity submissive. This is the kind of submissive woman that flooded the lifestyle after the 50 shades explosion into the main stream. They don't particularly know what they are doing. They dont particularly identify as actually being submissive. But it's popular and sexy and kinky so why not give it a try. These women are actually more interested in the beauty and the beast taming the monster fantasy of domesticating a Dom than they are in actually being a sub the majority of the time. Then once they have accomplished that they will cheat on him for "no longer being exciting" a few years later.
The trauma submissive. This type of submissive takes on a submissive role in just about every aspect of any relationship she has primarily because of trauma experienced during childhood or in previous relationships. She may not actually have any real desire to be a submissive, but often feels trapped or like she doesn't deserve anything else or anything better. Sadly, these women also regularly don't know how to respond when interacting within healthy relationship practices and don't understand why things can be so difficult. Dealing with trauma is not easy and should not be done alone. For those that have experienced the trauma side seek help if you need it. For those trying to support them, have patience, and act with grace and understanding.
The desperation submissive. This type of submissive woman believes that they do not deserve anything or anyone, and out of an act of desperation, submit to doing just about anything in order to get attention and interaction from someone. These women typically have deep seated issues which they should also be seeking help with and often use abusive sexual use as an outlet to try and cope with how they feel and their issues of self worth. These are the kinds of women that you may see have listed on their profiles self deprecating language and statements of willingness to do anything for anyone as long as they can get some attention. Again, if you are one of these people, or you know someone who demonstrates destructive behavior, please look for help.
The capitalist submissive. The woman is pretty much anything goes for anyone as long as they are willing to pay. Only fans, not a problem, personal videos just $10 more. You can't look in any direction in a place like this without dodging a profile trying to send you a link or sell you something. I'm pretty sure everyone is tired of this group at this point.
I'm sure there are a few that I have overlooked and perhaps I'll do a part two in the future. We shall see. Anyway, thats just a few thoughts from a guy that's been around a while.
