As with any prolonged relationship between man and woman, we need to keep rediscovering each other and our independent wants/needs. We are all too often enthralled in a relationship which lasted for some years, but begins to falter due to one or both partners becoming complacent. Complacency can begin by one or the other becoming expectant or even demanding in the sense of certain jobs, tasks, performance, or even emotions.
As a DOM taking on the role of physical and mental ownership of a woman can be an ongoing chore in order to meet her expectations. For many women who today have demanding positions of authority at their workplace the RELEASE they seek in the arms of their Dominant is paramount to her psychological and emotional needs. I have had my slave (wife at the time) come home in tears from the stress which was created by her position at work, her continuing education, traffic home, and to some extent dealing with her millennial, adult children's own problems.
The only release for her was to shun off her clothing take a shower upon her return home and either choose to eat a ready-cooked meal or go directly to our basement dungeon. As a Dom, it was up to me to decipher and decode the signals she portrayed which would lead to an actual play or punishment session. I recall this special evening when she was mentally upset, in fact, drained due to her own supervisor's physical advances. She had informed me that she had to shut her down, all along fearing a future reprisal for her needed action. STRESSFUL!
That evening she wanted a hard cry - nothing more, and nothing less. As her DOM. lover, and husband, sometimes it becomes a chore to cater to her need for pain. Most of us Dominants cannot help ourselves from feeling some remorse for the infliction of great suffering upon our lovers. Unless you are a hard-core sadist, few gain any pleasure from her muffled screams, cries, and protests. Safe signals and words remain in place and it is up to us as owners to cater carefully to these if used.
When the hour or so was over, and her butt, and upper thighs, were well marked by my single tails and strap, I left her strapped down, removed her gag, and removed the mirror which had allowed her to see herself during her needed punishment. Although she asked to be left strapped as she was, I'd released her ankles and gave her a drink of cool water. It is difficult to know exactly what she was feeling after the fact, which was not conveyed until we both got into bed later that night. She put her head on my chest and said '"THANK YOU Master" , with a tear in her eyes. Before we drifted off to sleep, I put her favorite collar around her neck and held on the leash.
Unfortunately, after many years our individual desires took different paths and we divorced as she escalated higher in the corporate world. For me being retired, and at home most of my day, I found it stressful just listening to the details of her day, which all too often had also become repetitive. Her days at work were highly unpredictable from day to day.
I too have become complacent today with the COVID restrictions. COVID-19 restrictions have been imposed upon our personal freedom and ability to get out on the town. Friends have stayed away fearing this virus. Meeting up with others over dinner, or a drink has been socially brought to a STOP. Face-to-face dating has been remanded to ZOOM, Facetime and other forms of interpersonal contact I still to this day do not know all the why, when, or how the paths of our life parted. All I will say is that I am happy for her, and always will behold loving feelings for this woman and the time we shared together. Somewhere our relationship became a victim of our Failure to Thrive! Both of these human faults are Duly Noted!