Dirty Pretty Things

It's Sunday night and to be honest I need a pick me up,something fun, something to make me smile.

Its been awhile since we broke the internet with my last challenge so let's try it again.  Remember the "Define Me In 1 Word" challenge 😂

Minxys Challenge ~ 1) Post a voice note saying your username and where you are from. 2) And then add a cheesy/silly pickup line. Or something you are comfortable saying 💜. 3) Don't forget to copy & paste this so it gains momentum and  everyone joins in!  

I love hearing different voices and accents 😍

If you can't leave a voice note, there's free and easy options on the internet like Vocaroo. ;)

When you want to write but you can't find the words.

When you just want someone to understand how you feel. 

When you wish closure was easier.  But sometimes no response is a response.

When today's an emotional day and I know that's just silly but it just hurts. 

I'm thinking of going back to the name Minx. What do you think?

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Okay there seems to be a lot of new Doms on the site. 

And sometimes I'm speechless at the messages I get. Mindblown!

So here we go:

It's okay to be inexperienced.

Its not okay to lie or misrepresent your experience. Everyone has to learn & everyone can improve.

It's okay to be here for just kinks, kinky play or kinky sex. Just say so!

It's not okay to just pretend you want a dynamic or the whole lifestyle and fuck with people's feelings.

And a bit more specific.....It's okay to want a harem of subs but if you don't know what the hell you are talking about or doing then say so.

It's okay to be unsure of what you like/desire and try out different things.

It's not okay to be a submissive male pretending to be a Dom. You aren't a Dom cuz you say so. 

Its not okay to ask me to message Dommes that have blocked you!!

It's also not okay to attempt to manipulate me into giving you orders and tasks. Being submissive does not mean Im dumb and you're intelligent. I may "out-Dom" you but doesn't mean I want to Domme you. I don't give a flying fuck if you lock yourself in a chastity cage for me. 

Ugh. 

How are you enjoying this summer day? I have burgers on the grill,  and beef ribs on the smoker for dinner. And I had a water balloon fight. 😈

I believe that sometimes being open-minded is the key to happiness. It's about your willingness and effort to explore things outside your normal. I've always believed you should be willing to try new things, even if it is something you didn't consider before. This can apply to people, bdsm, food  romance or whatever!

Just give it a chance.

So go on and try a threesome or the rocky mountain oysters at dinner!

Bonus points if you know what that is ;)

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As for me, I'm happy right now. I feel hopeful, blissful and peaceful. I've been exploring something special and the days have been treasured moments.  I've also been living at the lake for a couple weeks now. I've postponed the job hunt for a bit to enjoy summer and just get back to feeling like myself. Being laid off after years with the same company was shocking and left me feeling adrift.

Nature and being outdoors is my thing.  Hearing the rain on the camper roof,  outdoor movie nights on the big screen projector,  fishing for walleye and frying them up with Cajun spice late at night, jeĺlnga tournaments,  outdoor showers,  afternoons at the beach, baking in the sun,  tie dye parties, carnivals, line-dancing, bonfires, I could go on and on. I'm going home tomorrow for a few days to do adult stuff like mow the lawn, check the mail, and pay bills. But then I think I'm coming back up to the lake. The hammock under shady trees is calling my name.

June is PTSD Awareness month. So a shout out to everyone that knows the struggle. I feel you. I see you. And you're doing great!

I have had PTSD for about 8 years now.  If I hear voices raised in anger, I still panic.  If I hear a loud sound, my heart starts racing. Big, shiny knives make me freeze.  Hyper vigilance is a real bitch. And the night terrors don't ever seem to go away.

PTSD isn't talked about as much as it should be. It affects so many people in a lot of different ways.  I've met a lot of people here on the cage that have PTSD.

You're not alone. Don't give up.  You're not strange or broken.  

We're just a little different ♡.

It's been awhile since I've written or really been active on here. I hope everyone is doing well.

I had too much to say and no way to say it. But as always, time marches on & the waves settle. Things become clearer in a positive way. 

I had a birthday and thought alot about the past year and what I want next year to be like.  Probably normal birthday type thoughts.  

The weather's getting warmer every day and the lake v is calling my name.  I can't wait. 

When I need you the most,  is when I'll probably push you away. 

When I need a friend the most,  is when I'll probably get quiet and hide away. 

When I'm hurting the most,  is when I'll probably be the fakest happy me that you'll ever see.

When I'm breaking inside, you'll probably never know

But what if there's no probably about it.

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So emotional,  I  know  it's not a good look. Life's been heavy lately.  For a few weeks now. And I'm just ready for a change. "Be the change" is not as simple as it sounds. 

It snowed today. I know, what the fuck. That sums up everything. 

Sending blessings and love, miracles and kindness, sunshine and umbrellas to all who need them the most. ♡

Preface ~ This is likely to be an unpopular opinion *especially because I do identify as a submissive* and that's truly okay. There is a lot of varying opinions on everything in this lifestyle and it doesn't mean any of us are right or wrong. There is a lot of gray area, and this is only my perspective. I'm not trying to piss you off but tomorrow I may try haha. 🙃

 The current trend I am repeatedly seeing is how many people are focused on what a gift submission is. I just dont comprehend it in this way. I guess my brain works differently. But if we see submission as a "gift," then why don't we see dominance as a "gift", too? I don't like the "gift" analogy. It just seems wrong to me. Why are we even keeping track of if someone has "earned" us? Maybe we haven't "earned" them? Should we keep a tally? /sarcasm. 

This concept just bothers me. Im not sure calling submission -a gift- is appropriate. A gift is defined in the dictionary as a thing willingly given to someone without payment. But in bdsm context, we do expect payment. We expect our partner to hold up their end of our negotiations and be dominant. We expect them to take control, to know whats best for us.and to take care of all our needs. That's a pretty huge payment, isn't it. If a Dom does not give you time, effort, attention, orgasms, security etc then you are unlikely to keep submitting to him. Why would you? Noone blindly gifts submission without expectations and a return of the investment. 

We could say that dominance needs to be earned, too. Just like submission. Why is there a differentiation? Neither side should have more importance, in my opinion. Both are essential. Reciprocity. Neither dominance nor submission can happen successfully without the other. That's why it's an exchange. Which absolutely makes sense. Give & take. Push & pull. Cooperation & compromise.

Discussion is encouraged after my bubble bath 👀.

My creative side is at peace. I've been messing around with digital art & AI this week, and I am sooo addicted. I am a gurl that wants to be creative but i struggle to express myself. Well not anymore! So this is how it works.  Basically, you feed text prompts into the AI image generator and it spits out your creations. Like magic! (This is the only time I will endorse spitting). Sounds easy amirite? Kinda yeah but kinda not.

The more defined and specific your words are, the better your creation is. A full paragraph is the best and most advanced method they say. I'm mostly using keywords lol. At least 60% of what I render goes in the virtual trash. Today, I was exploring with ambiance type words like grunge, rock, whimsical, Victorian etc. To see the different ways they effect the creation. Then you can adjust the weight of your words too. I've done sea turtles to vampires to high heel shoes to pugs. You can literally create anything from your imagination!! And then refine your text and improve it even more. You have to be patient though because AI likes to be unstable and glitch out if you're too confusing. Or it's a bad word. Or just cuz. I've been using NightCafe Creator and I love the daily contests to challenge myself.
You can even order a print of your art rendering right there in high resolution! 
I'm just so excited and enthusiastic about this and hopping all around. It's so much fun and so satisfying. I know its only words and imagination but it still takes creativity right?

Ill post some stuff I created! Thank you for peeking ♡

P.S. if I Missed the memo on AI art and y'all already know how awesome it is....oops. 

Example: here I used the words "small adorable pug puppy sleeping on his back with tongue sticking out,  in a sweater cuddling a teddy bear, cozy, lace, browns, peaceful"

A lot of people are going through heavy things right now. I see you & I feel you & I know you're hurting. I wish I could take it away from you. Ive been emotionally drained too. Done like dinner. Is it some kind of moon or celestial thing? 🌟 🌙 

Let's do some randomness:

~ You're not alone, I promise you this. 

~ It's okay to be sad, quiet, and down. Let yourself feel it. I'm still learning this...

~ Self love baby! A fuzzy blanket, a candle, ice cream, a good book about zombies or a familiar voice on the phone. Do it ♡

~ One day this too shall pass. I feel like I'm in a bad meditation class right now lol.

I dont know what else to say. Just spreading some love your way. Pay it forward. 💟